Fair Parenting - Parenting Issues Knowledge Base

Parenting Issues Knowledge Base

Parenting issues? I have 4 kids Amberly and Launa are 5 Jacoby is 3 and serenity is 4 monthes. Now . the baby is out all the time sleeps all the time lol , But Amberly and launa wont sleep in there own beds They sleep with me and Nick in are bed, So we actually moved there beds in are room, But now me and my husband have no alone time. We have tried getting the girls to go back in there own room and my husband nick even tried to bribe them but nothing is working for us and i knwo never bribe your kids. Its no that they want to be with us all the time just none of are kids like sleeping in that room . Any ideas We tried that But it't not just the twins we put a son in the room for a night and he ended up in are bed to that night and when he's in his own room he always sleeps right through the night never comes into are room. I don't understand the room is a odd shape so could that be it light reflecting making shapes ? Camille is that is try having four kids running around constantly i'm sorry but i'm used to doing everything so fast , I don't get much time to myself...So excuse me if my writing is not perfect ....Try raising four kids and come back to me.

What parenting issues are you currently dealing with right now because of your teenage child?

Parenting issues with sis in law, how do I handle this? I have 2 teens a 16 and 14 yr old. Since a young age, I have taught them to be well behaved and respectful. My SIL has 2 kids. Her 5 year old boy is a terror, he has no consequences . She threatens him with punishment such as taking away a toy, etc. but never follows through because he throws a fit, so she gives in. She makes the excuse " he's only 5" so everyone is expected to tolerate his bad behavior. My issue is when she tells me how I should be handling issues with my teens. She has never parented a teen. She thinks she knows the "right" way to handle issues, because she has an education in childhood development. I could care less how she wants to raise her son, I don't have to live with him.How do I let her know that she isn't exactly qualified to give me advice and that it's an insult? Her brother (my husband) is not the kids father) the kids were from my previous relationship. They do however consider him their dad since their real father abused them.

I need help with listing examples of parenting with financial issues for an illustrative essay ? illustration essay-parenting and financial issues

Does anyone know of an attorney in Monroe MI that handles child support/parenting time issues? I am in desperate need of an attorney who can help with child support and parenting time issues in Monroe MI. Possibly one willing to be Pro Bono or possibly kind hearted to help protect my daughters and their rights. Legal Services have only one attorney that services 2 counties and does not have time to spend on this. Any help will be greatly appreciated.

step parenting issues? maxine553 Level 2 step parenting issues? if your a step parent dealing with issues, go to geocities.com/parentingsteps (parentingsteps) for help advice or other, we also offer a e-mail group. hope to see you there

How have you handled parenting issues with your teenage child..................? related to sex education, drug/alcohol use, driving, friends, co-ed sleep overs, ccurfew or other issues not mentioned??/

Shared custody, parenting issues, Should I contact someone higher? I'm engaged with another man, have been with him more than 3 years. My son is also 3. His father lives with his mother, who babysits my son. On my way to pick up my son a few months ago, Jordans father was laughing because my son was in his backyard, pooping on the side walk naked. They have a chain-link fence. I told them I thought it was innappropriate, but they thought nothing of it. Summer time, I bought my son swim trunks only to find out that his grandmother lets him swim naked so he wouldn't wear them. Days ago, I went to pick him up and he was on the side walk in front of their house, butt naked, his grandmother holding his underwear and pants,watching him try to point his member in a little hole in the ground to pee in. Which he succeeded. I saw him and was amazed that she was letting him do this. A few days ago, he tried to pee in my plants when she was dropping him off. And she says "You're not a my house so you have to pee in the potty" Should they only be my rules?

Could this quote explain MOST parenting issues? "Children can't hear what you say, because they are too busy watching what you do"? Do you hit when you don't like something? Are you rude and smart mouth with your kids-talking over their heads? Do your feel entitled to run your mouth even when you know no one is listening? Do you feel like you are OWED? Do you fight and argue with your spouse all the time? Do you curse and scream and act like a spoiled brat when you don't get your way? Are you an impatient driver? Do you ignore you kids because you have "more important" things to do? Do you apologize to your children when you act like a jerk(even when you think they deserved it)? Do you blame your kids or spouse for the way you act?

Help! Husband and I disagree on parenting issues...? My husband and I disagree on so many issues as to how to discipline/raise our children that it's a huge strain on our marriage. Is there a book about this type of situation?

Single Parenting Issues? In your opinion, what is the greatest issue of being a single parent??

Do you think children have serious mental illness OR parents have parenting issues? Hmmmmm.

What parenting issue do parents need the most help with? I am a Parent Coach (see Profile) and I was wondering what topics parents need the most help with.

family/parenting issues, please help!? I'm fifteen years old. I'm not writing this as a "like omg omg I totally hate my parents!!!!!" question. Its just I'm really upset with the way things are going on in my house. The issue is my brother, hes verbally and physically abusive towards me, and verbally abusive towards the rest of my family but I get it worse. He says thinks to me like "no one will ever like you, you're too fat and ugly" and things along those lines. My parents dont know what to do with him, so they just tell me to ignore it. I'm tired of ignoring it. I cant help but get upset and there are sometimes when I dont get upset when he will say something to me, but later on he'll say something small and I will flip out, then my parents say that I'm overreacting. My brothers a loose cannon. Not doing well in school and in life and I think he lashes out on the family because he can, and he doesnt get punished. What are some things I / my parents can do? Just looking for some coping tips or something.

Could someone please help me? 2 parenting issues...? First, My daughter always butts in and tries to parent when I am in the middle of dealing with the issue at hand....HELP!! Granted, she does babysit the little one sometimes, but I am ineffective with her...second thing- I put my son to bed and he keeps coming out- he needs stuff- how do I deal with it? It seems stupid and I feel dumb asking, but I am not a perfect parent and need help- these things are DRIVING ME UP THE WALL!!! Thanks in advance- please no judging, life is hard enough without judgement....

what parenting issues are you dealing with right now? parents of toddlers please

What are the unique challenges of step parenting? I've heard that general family counselors can do more harm than good when it comes to advising people on their step parenting issues. You need a specialist, is what I was told. So, what are the unique challenges of a step parent dealing with a step child? What are the most important issues to look out for? I've heard that sometime the step parent just has to put up with being disrespected. They should just suck it up and let the bio parent deal with it. What say you all? I forgot to say that the bio-mom is dead. And the 3 kids are 14, 16, 17 yrs old.

What are the biggest issues faced by parents of ADHD children? I am a personal coach specializing in parenting. Because I am also a mother of an ADHD child, I have decided to focus mainly in that area. I desire to help others in this situation, but I want to focus my attention on the main issues faced by parents in this situation and not just rely on my own personal experiences. Each child is different and family values vary...I want to know what others are experiencing.

Do u think the parents of Brittney/Jamie Spears have issues of parenting?

Why do people at YA are always against teens in issues with their parents? Many teens have asked questions about issues with their parents. Sometimes sseriuos issues, sometimes light ones. But in almost all cases people here (except other teens) side with the parents. Even when it's clear that the parents messed up or were unfair, people always try to find excuses, saying things like kids don't come with instructions, being a parent is the most difficult job ever, your parents are human being, and so on. But when kids mess up people her try to make them feel bad, that they got fair punishments, have to get over their resentment, apologize, etc. I think most people do that because they are afraid of turning kids against their parents, or of giving them more arguments against their parents. Others simply don't like teens, though they were teens in the past. Anyway, my conclusion is YA is not a good place for teens to get advice about problems with their parents, because most answers will make them evn more depressed or angry. Am I right? By the way, I'm almost 15

Does any know of any good parenting chat rooms? I am looking for a chat room where people actually discuss parenting issues. I have seen lots of message boards for parents and chat rooms that are used to discuss everything but parenting. I would really like to find a room dedicated to the subjust of parenting. Thanks!

Help with step parenting issues? Dealing with a blended family.? Ok, my bf and I have lived together for about 2 years now and we have a great relationship. That is great if we didn't both have ex spouses and kids from each. We have such different ways we have raised our kids and when the kids come to visit, its so hard. His 13 year old son lives with us. But his 11 year old daughter visits from another state. His kids do NOT respect me, want to listen to me and do things that (to me) aren't acceptable. Things I would never allow my kids to get away with. I normally would say he should discipline them. However, he works and I have the kids alone with me and feel completely unable to tell them anything. If they don't like anything I do or say, they'll call their mom and give them an X rated version of what happened. Then she texts my BF and bitches. He always takes my side to me in private. But it causes me ENORMOUS stress. She's arriving today and I am a nervous wreck. I swear I have done EVERYTHING I can so the kids will like me. Nothing works I have given up almost everything in my life to take care of his kids when their mom left them to have another man's child. Just fyi, I didn't know left til after they got divorced. His ex constantly bad mouths me to them and my BF lets them walk all over me. Like I said, we have a good relationship in EVERY other area. I just don't know if I can deal with his EX and their kids, forever, the way things are. Please tell me how you've dealt with this. Did it work out? What'd you do? Or did it end? I love them all so much. But the stress of trying to please the unpleasable is literally making me physically exhausted, depressed and anxious to the point of needing anti anxiety medication for the 1st time in my life. I want this to work with him so much. I just don't know if I'm strong enough to keep going through this. Imagine an ex spouse or partner that is completely the worst and his ex is 100x's worse. NOT exageration!!!

Why do my parents have issues with me becoming a vegetarian? They refuse to go out of their way to support my decision, and it makes it so inconvenient, I've just given up on trying. What is their perspective, so I can explain to them what I'm doing and why while understanding their point of view?

Being a good parent - are these really two separate issues? Ive noticed that when we talk about good and bad parents, it's easy to say that you need to be financially sound, but then it can offend people who are poor that say that they are also good parents and money has nothing to do with this issue. Well, do you feel that the two issues really are separate. While money is necessary to ensure that a child has their needs met, that is only one aspect of being a good parent. The other issue really is the ability to nurture and care for a child? And, that ability to nurture really transcends all social, economic, religious and cultural barriers?

Why do some parents have issues with their kids drinking behind their back? Why are they?

What, if any, are the issues involved in raising HIV+ children? I have read that people are more unwilling to adopt a child if they are HIV+. Besides dealing with the stigma, are there any issues that parents have to additionally consider when raising HIV+ children as opposed to HIV-? Website links would be extremely helpful. Thankyou.

Do you tend to discuss hard issues and topics with parents or people you know you can trust? We all know that teenagers tend to keep more to themselves about issues, and tend to talk about their problems with their friends more often than their parents. I am looking for opinions on why this is, and parents are more than welcome to join in on this topic as long as they don't leave know it all comments (sorry but nobody wants to hear them). Thanks ahead for the responses. Cory

Why do hardheaded(troublesome) teens lie so much to their parents about hugh issues? For example: having sex, drugs, gettin drunk at parties,- does you parents not care about this? Seriously you need to psychological help if you are going to lie to your parents about big things like this? Its better to tell the truth now than to punk out when they eventually find out. FYI: never did the huge stuff- sex, drugs, and drinking. OF course i have lied over small stuff- like an homework assignment.

What would you do about your boyfriends inconsistant parenting skills? My boyfriend will tell his two girls to do something or there will be a new rule put forward then the next weekend, its like it never happened? What is the deal? It drives me crazy! I dont know how to approach this with out it sounding like i am critizing his parenting. ( i dont have any of my own ) That and I plainly dont understand why he does it. I know that this could potentionally lead into other issues !!??

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Parenting Family issues & children? My daughters father has a new GF. Which I don't really care if he does or doesn't have a GF. He's his own person. Well my daughter would go with her father on Fridays and for the rest of the weekend to spend time with his child. But what he was doing was dropping her off with his mother on Fridays till Sunday morning. Leaving a full day of Saturday of him not being with his daughter. Instead of spending time with his daughter he goes out with his new GF & her son to do fun stuff. When he pick her up on Sundays all they do is sit around his GF's house & do nothing. I stopped letting him take her because he's not spending quality time with his daughter. But she still goes to his mothers house so it's not too much of dramitic change for her to all of a sudden stop seeing the other side of the family. He is more than welcome to go to his mothers house &spend the day w/her but he refuses to now even see her.... Because I don't want my daughter around his GF. He doesn't want to seperate himself from her...yet our daughter is the one who is going to suffer because of this. I am putting my foot down with this issue & if he really wants to see & spend time with his daughter he has to make an effort without his girlfriend. He's with his girlfriend Mon-Fri why can't he leave for a day to spend a Saturday w/ his child? Now his GF is calling me & threatining me. Which I never gave her my #, so she has no right to call me. Plus she mentioned probate court. I'm not afraid. I don't see a judge taking my daughter out of my house where she has been for her whole life. Plus she has severe medical issues that need special attention to & he is not capible handle them. I mean he has never treated me with so much disrespect before he meet her. And he has had GF's before & I've never seen a change in him. But I feel that this new GF is brainwashing him or something. I mean he's always had his daughter by his side Fri-Sun they coulden't be seperated before her.Am I being in the wrong My daughters medical needs are constant follow up with dr's @ Boston Childrens hospital. She is also having surgery in July. As for her father scheduling all the appointments without them interfearing with her schooling & keeping them plus being on time is what he can't handle. He can't even pick her up/drop her off on time. He even knows he's bad about being on time. He is his own person, but my daughter wants to be with her dad. Her teachers have told me on several occasions that she doesn't spend enough time with her dad & it makes her sad. It breaks me in 1/2 everytime they tell me. She doesn't want to tell him (or even me because the teachers had to tell me) because she's afraid she's going to disapoint someone. She dosen't want grammy feeling that she dosen't want to be with her & she is trying to make her dad happy by going along with what he wants. Everytime the teachers tell me I always give her a super big hug & ask her if she wants to talk to see if she wants to open up.

Health issues are causing me to move into parents house, can i legally break a lease for health reasons? I have been diagnosed with several health issues that require me to be under supervision and I will need to move back into my parents home. Is there a way that I can legally end a home rental lease? I can have my doctor show proof? Please tell me what my options are.

Looking for a teether that was advertised in a recent issue of one of the parenting/baby magazines? This particular teether was listed in a baby magazine of which I can not find my issue. It was in an issue between August and October '06. The Item resembles a rubber ball with little faces on them each is a differnt color and each has a different type of nobby characteristic. They also have cute names for each. The material is not a hard rubber. Wish I could be a better describer.

Looking for real information on the Total Transformation Program for behaviour issues with kids? The Total Transformation Program is a parent's tool to address behavioural issues in their kids. It's supposed to teach parents to effectively work through inappropriate behaviors with their children. I'm looking for "real" information on it, not their canned testimonials.

Parenting/depression/weight issues? I am a 28 yr old woman with weight issues. I am happily married with a 1 yr old,but still feel depressed and miserable about how much I weigh. I weigh about 250, and my doctor is sending me to get some tests run to check my thyroid and other things. I know what I need to do to help myself. Diet & exercise is the main focus on a healthy lifestyle. I feel it all escalated after I lost my dad 3 years ago to cancer in a 2 week span of finding out what was wrong with him to his actual death. I have been on/off depression meds for over a year. It's so very hard with being a full time student, working part time, and having a toddler. My husband is/has always been supportive, but I guess I need some input/support from others who do not know me and who may be dealing with the same issues as myself. Please any info would be greatly appreciated. I can not take it anymore, and I need to do something for me and my family. Thank You very much. I feel my feelings are going to effect my son. I did ask this earlier in health, but thought more mommy's might relate. Thanks again. I feel my issues are going to effect my son, and how I am as a parent. I did ask this earlier in health, but thought more mommy's might relate. Thanks again. I feel my issues are going to effect my son, and how I am as a parent. I did ask this earlier in health, but thought more mommy's might relate. Thanks again. Sorry for all that. I thought I could delete some, but it won't let me.

Any good discussions, blogs, groups, websites, etc. for step-parenting and related complications and issues? Being a step-child most of my life wasn't enough preparation for being a step-parent.

can anyone help with custodial parent relocating issues? does anyone have any info on custodial parent relocation? do you know of a case in which reloc. was granted or denied? reasons why? I am a divorced mother of two and recently engaged. i am wanting to relocate 100 miles away. for better sschools, financial security, and finally being a stay at home mom. my ex is completely against the move even though i have offered him a similar visitation schedule. he threatens to fight all the way and then appeal, appeal ,appeal. can anyone help?

What do you think about teen pregnancy and parenting? I am a teen mother writing a paper for my college English class about the contriverasial issues of teen pregnancy and parenting. I understand that people have different point of views about the situation. If you could tell me if you agree or disagree and why that would be great.

Anyone Know Good Book to get for an 8 Year Old with Social/Repect Issues? I was wondering if anyone knew of a good book to get for an 8 year old with severe social/respect issues. His parents are not doing a good job with this one. He is home schooled, pretty much gets away with everything & is only happy when the world revolves around him. I sure some of it is just reaching out for attention, but he needs to learn a better way to do this. I am talking about my cousin. His behavior is so bad, my grandparents who LOVE everyone can't stand to be around him. His problems consist of the following: he flips people off (not really he uses his pointer finger, but he means it that way), he interrupts conversations ALL the time (you pretty much can't have one around him), he doesn't respect other peoples things, etc... Looking for book suggestions that convey the proper way to act. I would prefer if the book wasn't blantly obviously, but ones where the story convey this general idea. The story needs to good, so he will actually read it. So, any ideas? In case anyone is wondering I did ask this question in another category, but I thought I would try here as well. Also, in case anyone did not catch it in the question...THIS IS NOT MY CHILD I AM REFERRING TO, it is my cousin. More info... My Aunt, his mother, is divorced from his dad, but he acted like this before that. His father could really care less (not a strong male role model). Also, his behavior got a little better when he went to public school for a while. But I think my Aunt got lonely and pulled him back out again. He is now being home schooled. Once again, thanks for anything that you come up with. The whole family is trying to sneak things in this year for Christmas. My parents are getting him a Bible for kids. Other people are getting him stuff along same line.

Is there any mom around here that i can talk to? Parents issues and family matters?

Any foster parents out there having issues with the process of terminating parental rights? We are fostering three children from the same mother. The kids were 7 weeks, 13 months and 28 months when they came to live with us over 2 years ago. To them, we are their parents, especially the youngest. Our problem is the way that social services goes about terminating rights. The mother has had numerous chances and has blown them all. She is supposedly on her last chance, but has already violated the terms of that "chance." However, the only witnesses are now three and four years old. This is supposed to be the last straw. We are frustrated, angry, sad, and a whole lot of other things right now. Is anyone else out there in a simialr situation? Anyone been through it? How did you fare?

Fathers and mothers are not taught parenting skill; who to blame who? There is general consensus around parents providing the basic necessities, with increasing interest in children's rights within the home environment. Herein I raise inter-related questions:- 1. Define Parenting. 2. What are parental duties? 3. What is the differences and similitaries between 'conventional parenting' and 'modern parenting'? 4. What are the parenting issues faced by children today? 5. What are the parenting styles? 6. Where is the justice upon the children whose parents misuse their parenting authorities? Thanks Syd...wow, such a young age to know something in-depth...clap,clap,clap

Do you have to have children to be an expert on parenting? What is your opinion on this? I notice that some of the people who hold themselves up as parenting experts aren't actually parents themselves. For example, Gina Ford. There are also some people on Yahoo! Answers who regularly give detailed advice on subjects such as parenting and co-sleeping, but aren't actually parents. Do you have to be a parent to really understand these issues? Or is it possible to gain expertise through working with children alone?

Should a nanny tell the parents that she feels the child may have some lesrning issues? AS a Parent would you want your childs nanny ,of more than a year ,to tell you if she felt that your child had some learning/social issues?

what are your views and thoughts on parenting? what are your views and thoughts on parenting? how do you feel about adoption and cultural issues if you were to adopt from overseas? you dont have to be a parent to answer, just want people's general thoughts and feelings thanks!

what are the common concerns/problems/issues on absentee parenting of filipino children??

In child support issues, if both parents are remarried, is the income of the new spouses considered? My husband has been paying child support for six years, $317 a month. His ex keeps threatening to take him back to court for more money, but the way she brags it seems like she and her husband make about twice as much as we do. Does anyone know if they take the spouses income into consideration in Wyoming? We haven't hired a lawyer yet, but it seems like it would be worth it just to shut her up.

Handling the parent of a child with behavior issues? I have a child who does not follow directions, does not listen, constantly out of his seat, constantly argues with others, will not admit when he has been caught RED HANDED (still shakes his head and says it wasn't him even though I saw him!!!), and constantly on another PLANET!!! The issue I have; THE PARENT, She always questions me!!!!! The son is NEVER at fault!!! HELP!!!!!!! Quite franky as professional as teachers have to be, I AM TIRED OF IT.

Is it true that the parents of homosexuals have issues regarding hugging people of the same sex? If so, why is this?

How should you confront your parents about boy issues? I have been dating this boy and i really like him. But i cant find a good way to tell my mom, how shoul i confront her. And remember,she is one of hard to talk to parents!!!

how do i talk to my parents about my weight issues and depression because i think i need professional help? i have suffered from anorexia and with the help of friends gotten out of it before my parents realized...been depressed and suicidal...and have cut before. i am 14 and i am 5' 3" and 106 pounds, a healthy weight but i am starting to lose again. id rather my parents hear about it from me before they hear it from one of friends--many of whom are threatening to tell them.

When referring to custody issues what does recinded rights as a parent mean? no rights what so ever? please help. i don't want to ever think my sister did this to my nephews! i miss them soo much. its gonna bring me to tears.how could she be so selfish does it mean all rights?

In a book about parenting what topics would you like to see covered? Please include as many details as possible, some suggestions are, Child Psychology, Behaviour Issues, Development, Expectations. I want to write a book that helps parents to just be themselves when tackling parenthood.

Do you think teens really listen to their parents about important issues?

What issues do you believe teens have with their parents? What do you believe are the ten things that parents should know about teenagers? Please be specific.

help with child support and parenting time issue? My ex and I divorced in june 05. The judge ordered him to pay $200 a month in child support and he has visitation every other week during the summer and every other weekend when the kids are in school. He has not been steady in visiting the kids at all these past 2 years. There has been so many changes (we both moved to different towns) and I don't know where he lives now. He calls sometimes (when he gets the urge, I guess) and visits very rarely. He has not paid any child support to me at all. Now that the summer has started and the kids are not in school, do I still have to let the kids go with him for a week even though I do not know where he lives, and he has not seen them in quite a while, nor has he paid any child support? I want my kids to have a relationship with him because he is their father, but he can't just show up when he wants to. Please help.

step parenting issues? if your a step parent dealing with issues, go to (www.geocities.com/parentingsteps) for help advice or other, we also offer a e-mail group. hope to see you there

parents issues? well my parents are being a pain in the butt cause i do not go see them at times they live 3 roads from me and all they do is b.... well my parents have issues and they do not make anysense at times so they talk none sense and i cannot listen to it and thats y i do not go their house. i need peace and quiet to myself. im 35 years old and they complain about my boyfriend to as well im sick of it they tell me we do not go and visit and bla blabla its bl.... my parents r very rude and my boyfreind has lots of manners and he treats me nice to as well. my parents need to grow up and get over it as well.my boyfriend is not a person that likes to comm wth other people he is shy . so yesterday i went to my moms house to pick something up, my mom said we snuck in without her seeing us. well she was watching tv so we did not want to interupt her.so my mom said to me that they wanted to yell at my boyfriend. for not coming to visit. well i say to me to bad! they act like babies.

if juice is not 100% juice,What ethical and moral issues are involved in this situation? Florida's Department of Citrus and a coalition of consumer groups have launched an attack on your company for "deceptive marketing" because your company markets its “SunShine” drink as fruit juice even though the drink contains less than five percent fruit juice. Marketing “SunShine” drink as a fruit juice leads parents to believe that they are purchasing a healthy juice for their children. What ethical and moral issues are involved in this situation? Should these issues impact the marketing of “SunShine” drink? Why or why not?

parent issues...? i feel like i cant tell my parents anything. im a teenager, so that may be why... but ive always just confided in my friends and their moms and dads have become my family that i talk to about boys and my real issues. since i stopped opening up to them, ive had 2 boyfriends and i may have had an eating disorder that ive since gotten over. my dad is only home on the weekends and my mom, to me, is basically psycho [thats just from her angry teenage daughter though]. my dad is only home on the weekends, so there is actually physical distance between us. i dont think anything like my eating disorder is going to happen again, and i think that as long as my friends and their families stay close by me, ill be okay. am i right?

Helping children cope with step-parent issues? My son and his ex-wife share custody and there is a problem I would like to get advice on (I'm asking for them). The mother has had low self-esteem issues and was always really insecure about how much the children loved her. They were little then (2 and 6) and ya know love is automatic for them. Since the parents have split, each has moved on to different lives and it seems as if the children have adjusted okay with some bumps here and there. Recently, the mom has wanted to get sole custody which the Court wouldn't allow b/c the dad (my son) is a good and active father to the kids. But some adjustments were made. One of the problems that has arisen is that now the mom will not discipline and lets the two kids do whatever they want and also is trying really hard to spoil the kids (I think because she wants the kids to love her more than the dad) so that when they go to their dad's and there are boundaries, the kids will get mad and tell their mom which causes problems. Mobblywobbly - yea you are right!! well, I had intended to talk about stepparents involved but not enuf characters to work with! My son's fiance (soon to be wife) is helping in a HUGE major way in providing an excellent structure for the kids. This whole thing is taking such a toll on her because she is so limited on how much she can correct the kids, provide boundaries, teach them manners, etc. It is really hard for her. But she has a great spirit and loves my son and the children very much Sorry Mollywobbles, i got your name wrong. :)

i need help i am going to therapy for my issues that i am dealing with anxiety,panic etc while my parents are? having marital problems and putting me in the middle and they are not trying to ,but are i am a VERY EMOTIONAL PERSON I CRY OVER ANYTHING and my husband just lost his youngest closetst borhter this past weekend so i am trying to be strong for him and my family and daughter its hard b/c i think about his brother often his 5 kids and wife he left behind and my parents issues i told him i am not going to the funeral b/c i am very overwhelmed and do not want my daughter to see this she is 5. my mom and little sister left out of town today and i want to spend time with my dad but he also crys and is emotional i cant cry anymore i feel like im under the weather feeling b/c all his family is down and my parents are down what can i do for myself to not get sick ?help i have ansiety really bad and am trying to help myself naturally the sad part about his brothers death is that he was shot 3 times for his rims and music and was thrown on a lawn across the street from his other brothers house

Parent issues? Any parents of children out these in this situation? How did you deal? This is going to be long so you better settle in. Okay so I have a best friend and I spend a lot of time with her. My parents dont apporove of friends. They say that friends are a waste of time and totally useless. (Yes they did have friends when they were kids). So we always have arguments over me talking with my friend over the phone. I talk to my friends for like 1 hour every day on the phone. And we have double lines so if someone important is calling I can still answer to it. So my parents are mad because I don't clean the house BTW I DONT HAVE ALLOWANCE so it's like doing it for free. The issue is that they don't apporove of me having a life. They dont want me to have friends. Or boyfriends. OR even go outside to hang out with my friends. So I sit at home on the computer or on the phone and just talk to my friends. My parents get mad because I talk to them on the computer for 4 hours straight. When I used to live in Europe they would let me hang out with my friends but since we came to live in Canada they won't let me do anything. How can I convince them to have more freedom,and that friends are something that you need? They say oh why can't you be more like your sister she is devoted to her studies. I said that's because she doesn't have any friends to talk to. She is a loner,I don't want to end up like her. MONEY and SCHOOL is not the only thing. You need friends. PLEASE I need to know how to solve this situation. And I am 14 i have a brother he is 18 and a sister she is 13. So yes i do have other siblings. I am not an only child.

Parenting issue? This is about my friend, but let's just for a minute pretend this is me. I'm asking this question because my situation doesn't seem fair and I'm trying to see if there's any way it's a legal issue. let's say hypothetically I'm 16 and live with my stepmother and father. My stepmother forced me get a part-time job and basically forces me to pay for my own food, clothes, etc. I'd like to place an emphasis on the food part, because isn't that kind of a basic need of people that parents are supposed to be responsible for? Basically, my stepmother--who is not even my real mother--micromanages my life and seems bent on making me spend as little time as possible inside the house. But as a rule, she refuses to drive me anywhere. As if that wasn't enough, she takes my cellphone as punishment (despite the fact that she made me pay for it myself) but makes me walk halfway across the city (it's a suburban area, but sh*t still happens). isn't my saftey in jeopardy? is this in any way a legal issue?

People I need yoru help with parent issues? Ok, right heres my situation a few weeks ago I went crazy/spastic because of deb issues and i had lost my phone I was so frustrated I threatened my parnets and all... and nwo my punishment is not to go to the 2nd deb adn IU want to how do I convince my parnets to let me go because I am organisign a table for me and my friends for the 2nd deb but my mum and stuff wotn let me go how to i convince tyhjem tp let me go? PLZ HELP!! will give u the most points!!

In really big trouble, help plz? (parent issues)? i jus went over 2 my friends house and before all that my dad said 2 b back by 11:00 am and i went around early this morning. the only reason why i am home is because i am home schooled. my dad want me 2 help clean up the house because there was gonna be visiters this afternoon. but i ben gone a while and my dad has anger issues. if i com back 2 my house now my dad wil kill me. som times if i do somthing wrong he will hit me and smacck me and it hurts really bad. if i do 1 thing wrong he wil yell at me. somtime i sneak out of the house because he scares me but one time he caught me. right now i am at my friends house but if i go back i hav a feeling he wil really hurt me. wat do i do i dont hav a mom

parents have issues with boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite sometime. My parents now have an issue with him and me seeing him because they didn't like the way he handled a situation, they felt that it was disrespectful to them but what he did had nothing to do with us. I don't agree with the way he handled the situation but I do understand why he did it. Since then my parents always have something negative to say about him. My family has issues with him and his side has issues with our relationship because they don't agree with some things that my parents have done. By the way he is a successful business owner, hardworking, responsible and treats me well, I am a college graduate, working hard and raising a child on my own but I still live at home. All of this is putting a strain on the relationship, what should I do?

Parents issues? Questions for all parents. Why do parents restrict their children do what they ( the perents) do? Paraphrase, parents will tell their kids not to use the phone after certain hours, but at the same time parents are using the phone unlimitedly... Another suspect is that parents make it clear that their kids MUST not smoke, while they ( the parents) smoke. Parents are very concerned about their kids being bibulous, but at the same time they're ( the parents) found to be bibulous, too. Parents restrict their kids from playing the radio at certain volume, but why it is ok for parents to play the radio at whatever volume they wish to? It is ok for parents to use expletives, but not for their kids... I understand parents own the house. Yes, I agree with that, but kids never asked their parents to bring them into their homes. Synonymously, it was the parents decision to HAVE kids, not the kids decision to be conceived. So it is a 50/50 rights here. So parents MUST do the things that they want their kids to do... Do you agree with me?

Parent Issues...? Serious!!? Ok, im 13 and i feel unloved by my own parents, but a year ago i met these people and it feels like they were meant to be my parents, im at there house all the time, and they care a lot about me and they support me and my decisions sometimes more then my real parents. is there anything i can do and is this normal, and can it be possible that i just got the wrong parents, i really feel much more comfortable with them and ive triend talking to my parents. Yea ive talked to my parents, they dont listen to me and dont change a thing they do.

Family Issues? ummm ok I need some help. Im a 15 yr old girl who is going through alot. Me and my mom bicker constantly at stupid things. She says im lazy well yea kinda but im depressed all the time and she took me to the doctor and i got put on pills but didnt work so i stopped using them this happen twice. well now she dont do nothing about it. She complains to me saying wheres your passion for horses. well idk im never in the mood anymore i try to but then i get mad at the horse for not doin what i say. I have had friend issues over the last year and grandparent .vs. parents issues. I feel like i dont want to do anything but sit around. but see i think its because i havent had my mentrusal cycle in almost a yr. and its really irregualar. i talk to my mom about it and she says she will do something but never does. my grades are horrible too.Me and my dad get along fine. me and my brother well fight alot. plz help on what to do.I dont wanna feel like crap anymore. Thanks Kim

Parenting Issue- I want to know your opinion!? Children and parents kissing on the mouth- what is this all about? I know this is an innocent practice… don’t get me wrong, I’m not a perve. But I was not raised that way. To this day if I kiss my parents, it is on the cheek. If I had a child, I would feel icky kissing them on the mouth. I have several friends with children. When their kids hug me goodbye, sometimes they want to plant a kiss on my mouth- and it just seems wrong to me! No matter how close I am to the child. I know that some of you will crop up with the opinion, “when you have a kid all that will change and you’ll kiss them on the mouth without thinking about it.” That may very well be. But when they get to a certain age, I will nip that little practice in the bud, because it is inappropriate. What do you think? Do you have kids and do you kiss them this way? This is more of a poll than anything- don't go postal on me please! I'm not here to offend anyone! I just can't stand the thought of it... I was afraid people might think I was talking about germs... but that's not it really. It's about appropriateness. For example... my husband's mother still kisses him on the mouth and it just makes me nuts. He's 25 for crying out loud! Kissing on the mouth, in my opinion, is about a private connection between two lovers. Not mothers or fathers. I just think it's a seperate emotion. I guess I'm not explaining it well enough! *Sigh*

Parent issues...? I'm 16 years old and I'm having some trouble getting my parents to understand something. I keep telling them about how I have paruresis (I actually told them every day for a month, plus countless times besides that), but they just don't care and have even flat-out told me that I don't really have a problem, I'm just making it up, etc. I am a member of the paruresis.org forum, and everyone there has been supportive, but they keep telling me to see a doctor, read these certain books (only available online, of course...), etc., but I can't do anything that would help because my parents won't let me. Am I just doing something wrong in communicating with them, or are they being crappy parents? This is very frustrating for me because it's messing up my life and they just think it's funny and not a real problem. (In general, they treat me fairly well, but whenever I have a real problem, they find it more convenient to just ignore it than to help me solve it.) If it makes a difference, I've had this problem since I was 7. My mom is constantly trying to make it worse by standing outside the door while I'm on the bathroom, talking to me while I'm trying to go, etc. Also, at my school, all the counselors do is tell us what classes to take to get into college and yell at people who are failing. They don't care about the students at all beyond that.

Parent issues...? I'm 16 years old and I'm having some trouble getting my parents to understand something. I keep telling them about how I have paruresis (I actually told them every day for a month, plus countless times besides that), but they just don't care and have even flat-out told me that I don't really have a problem, I'm just making it up, etc. I am a member of the paruresis.org forum, and everyone there has been supportive, but they keep telling me to see a doctor, read these certain books (only available online, of course...), etc., but I can't do anything that would help because my parents won't let me. Am I just doing something wrong in communicating with them, or are they being crappy parents? This is very frustrating for me because it's messing up my life and they just think it's funny and not a real problem. (In general, they treat me fairly well, but whenever I have a real problem, they find it more convenient to just ignore it than to help me solve it.) Yeah. my parents don't believe in mental problems causing physical effects, so they don't believe this. If I can't show a visible sign of a problem, they ignore it. I can only hope there are books on mental problems at the school library, as I don't have my driver's license, so it could be difficult to get to the public library.

Boyfriend & Parent Issues? Please help.? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years. We live together too. Every weekend we spend1 day at his parents house and the next day I go to my parents house alone. He refuses to go with me and when he does go with me he doesnt stay for very long (eat dinner and run back home). My parents did not like him before but they want to see him more and more now to see how he's doing and what he's up to. He's always making up excuses not to go. It just frustrates me when my parents ask me where he is and I always have to lie when I know damn well he's at home and didnt feel like coming , what to do? What to do? Am I wasting my time on a guy who doesn't want to love my family?

Parent issues? I've got a problem wit my parents, Im 17 so really i can move out i think... anyway my parents think im a total screw up & we fight at least two or three times a day. They think my little sister is a picture of perfection, which even though i hate to admit it... she is pretty much perfect. Me n my parents have gotten to the point that we dont talk, & when we do we're usually screaming at the top of our lungs, Im not sure if i should stay or move out with my friend thats leaving for college station at the end of the summer. Im really lost on this n need help???

parent issues with boyfriend? i've just turned 16, and my boyfriend is coming up to be 20. my parents knew about him, but said i'm not allowed to meet him (i met him through msn) they found out because my phone bill was really high, i confessed everything and they said i couldn't meet him. however, i did, i see him at least once a week, and i love him, i'm worried they are gonna find out where i go on weekends, i stay at his and i'm worried if they find out that i'm not at my friends house. they made me stop talking to him because they said "why would a 19 year old talk to a 15 year old" but i'm now 16, he's nearly 20 when is the best time to tell them? do i say i've met him on a night out? do i say my friend introduced us? or do i say i met him at college? (if i say that, i don't start college till september, so i would have to lye for another 6 months) i always stay over at his i want him to be able to stay at mine but i don't know if that will ever happen :( what do i do? :( xx he's not like that. you can't help who you fall for, yeah? there are 7 years between my aunty and uncle, doesn't make them sick. i'm not gonna end up pregnant cause i'm on the pill even if i did, i know he would never leave me he loves me and i love him age shouldn't be an issue

Parent issues? I just switched from band to orchestra. I never realized until now that I had the option to sing. I love singing so much and I want to do it way more than orchestra. I have told my parents this and my mom said either orchestra or both. I really don't want to do both because I would have to wake up early 4 out of 5 days and I already am having enough sleeping problems. Whenever I bring up switching my mom always says that I used to say i loved orchestra and when i say i like singing more she yellls at me. Then I tell them that there is no reason why I shouldn't be able to switch and then my dad says the reason is i am a jerk(not exaggerating either, he just said this to me after that was the only thing i said to him). Then I got really mad and said that me being a jerk doesn't mean I shouldn't be able to do what i love and so he says shut up and says how I am a spoiled brat, a jerk etc. etc. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I hate my dad, and my mom for that matter. Me and my mom never get along unless my sister is there doing all the talking. I get the feeling a lot that my parents think i am a kid that went wrong. If my dad catches me crying then he says I am a big baby and that I never grow up and that if I don't stop being a jerk then he will not let me do anything planned with my friends for the next month. He did something similar when my room was kind of messy. I got really mad cause I was sick of him telling me i was a spoiled bratty bitch(except he didn't swear but basically that's what he said) and I said that it was my room so he said that I was a jerk and he hated me. My mom never stands up for me and if i ever mutter how he is a jerk under my breath she says that I am being spoiled and that he did nothing wrong.

Parent issues? My cousin's mother is treating his oddly. Granite he is 18 years old, doesn't have very many friends at all, very lonley, and can't drive let alone afford a car. His parents are divorced and his father is a good guy. The mother recently got a 28 year old boyfriend which is very much younger than her. The mother works two jobs and sees the kid maybe 10 hours a week, when she is done working she goes to the boyfriend's (which he can't drive) and stays there till the next day. She won't answer her cell phone what so ever, when she is with this guy. She just all of a sudden stop seeing her own son, and pays more attention to the boyfriend. Tonight she got off work and went straight over to his house leaving her son with no food or drink, he finally got in touch with her and she complained that a can of soup was to exspensive, becasue she needed cigerettes when his father gave him that money in the first place. What are your feelings on this? I have ran out of advice for my cousin! LB: He pays half of the rent for the apartment, the electric, and water, that's why he can't afford a car. He has tried getting a apartment but he can't pay for everything and can't afford a car to drive, but we at one time tried to get him one and he wasn't financially stable and no one would rent to him. James Watkin: His father lives in Texas and he lives in Virginia. Darcy: He can't drive, so how is he supposed to go get dinner etc.?

Parent Issues...Ugh!? I'm 15 and I really want a computer, but my parents won't let me get one. I have tried everything! ... but they still won't let me get one! What can i say/do to convince them I should be able to have one??

Parent issues!! Any help??? O.K. mY mom and my dad are divorced and they fight all the time. My dad doesnt call about when hes gonna pick us up and my mom gets furious. Then my dad and his fiance fight all the time. All it is is bickering like 24/7!!! Any parent fighting advice??? Oh and by the way...my mom and dad dont really follow the visitation schedule because my dad live 3 and 1/2 hours away from my house!!!

parents issues...? what should one do when his parents are very disturibing...cheat on each other, have no respect for their marriage and cuss and shout all the time??? I mean is it normal for a kid to be very neutal and not even care or is it mean for others to hate their parents, or does one have to suffer to and feel the pain?

please help me, parent issues. very long but wud be helpful if you give me some advice? Hey, im asian and my dad is asian. You know the typical asian dad yelling at you if you get bad grades ect ect. yes, but my dad is worse, he is 64. He always yells at me for no reason, and even so at most time if it did it would have to be about something that happened a while back ago. My dad to me is clearly not bondable, he had did some horrible things in the past that caused my parents to seperate (cheating) and that really puts me in a possition where i almost hate him. He yells at me for a messy room, okay what parent doesnt? but on a every day basis my dad yells at me when he comes home from work, he yells about my room that is messy, and pretty much lectures me for hours so, he cusses me out in vietnamiese and tells me im not like any other kid, he says that teens dont have messy rooms and stuff.(so wrong) he never asks me to clean up anything, yet he cleans them up when im at school or something and gets mad about it when im come home.

Serious boyfriend-parent issues.? My boyfriend of a year has moved overseas, and as we're 16, he had no input into it. Now we're in a long distance relationship, and we're desperate to see eachother again. The problem is, my parents never approved of him. Our relationship was basically a secret from them. I have enough money to visit him, but i don't know how to GET there without my parents approval. His parents approve of us but they don't have enough money to come here again after the move. What should i do? Please dont answer with "ldr's don't work", because we're a strong couple and even if we cant see eachother till we're 18, we'll cope. I just need advice on how to see eachother again.

ugh, parent issues.? My Mom won't let me spend the night with my friends, anymore. Just because I come home smelling like smoke. I haven't smoked in a long time, and they think I do still. I can't really help the fact that they smoke, well only two of them smoke. My parents don't trust me, at all. Everytime I try to talk to them it turns into a war. I just want to get out of here! I wan't to hang out with my friends, and not get yelled at for smelling like smoke. What can I do to like earn my parents trust back? I tell them what i'm doing, and where i'm going, and i'm actually going there. but, they don't believe me. ): UGH.

PROM...parent issues? ok so me and my bf reallllllyy want to go to prom. my parents are totally good with it, but his parents both say no because they think he is irresponsible (which he def def def is not). Lying about where we are is risky. so what do u think we should do?

Parent issues!!!!!!!!!!!? Ok me and my mom are getting into fights constantly and she blames me for everything that goes wrong in our family. She will yell and i mean yell at me for the dumbest things. Also my parents took everything out of my room put it in my closet and duck taped it shut and they also put an alarm on it. I don't have my own clothes, my guitar, i have nothing what should i do... it seems as though i can't do anything and i have tried a lot of things. NOTHING i do seems to be good enough. Does anyone have any advice on what i should do in this situation!!!

Parent issues!!!? how to deal with annoying parents that wont shup up and stop complaining???

Parent issues? I wait on my parents hand and foot. I've cooked and clean when they've asked. I respect them all the time. I don't rebel or fight against them. They always say, "Oh we'll reward you" This seems to be all bull. The one time I do something wrong they jump on me and say, "I wouldn't expect this from you", and it pisses me off!! If i have bad grades they complain and say they're disappointed. I'm tired of it. What should i do? For example my mom had a minor surgery on tuesday, and no its Saturday. I was going to go somewhere but my dad was all "You should take care of your mother, My 18 year old half brother was at home, and my mom doesn't even need help. She walks around and gets on everyone at the smallest little thing all the time. THey always say "I'll make it up to you but they do the smallest things. I expect a PS3 or a Wii for Christmas. Maybe i'm taking them forgranted since they do give me lots of money. In a savings account I have $700 and I opened the account about a year ago and they've supplied most of the money, I want to withdraw some for some video games but I know my mom probably wouldn't do it unless it goes to something more important towards my education. IM in hign school, how can i have a life when i and so revered for kissing my parent's ***

Bf and parent issues! This is for the guys...? Guys are any of you or do you know any guys who just put your parents before anyone and anything else? I know they are important people in life but when your 23 years old shouldn't you be making your own decisions? especially when it comes to relationships! my now ex just broke up with me cause his parents werent happy about us, they think im rude cause i dont say much, im just a quiet person, not like i ignore them or dont say hello,thankyou or anything! i think they said more but he didnt tell me.

Boyfriend/parent issues.? Ok, so , Ive been with my boyfriend for 8months, but have known him for 3 years and we have been asked to go away for a weekend, firstly for a friends wedding, and secondly for his graduation. However, my Mum is not keen on the idea of a night away with him, but says it is my choice. I do love my boyfriend, and he loves me more than anything, but I have recently slowed things down abit, as there are a few things about him im not entirely happy with, eg, he may put drinking before me, or isnt always "a gentleman" eg not walking me to my car after a night out. I may sound high maintenance, but I think others can identify with me. My mum doesn't apporve of spending a night with him, although I am old enough to make my own decision, and already have slept with him. (Mum doesn't know) I love my boyfriend, and dont want to let him down, but also respect my parents. Should I go on these nights away with him?

parent issues. can you help me? I've been having a lot of problems with my parents lately, they treat me different then they do with my younger siblings. It seems as thought they have totally outcast me, they don't trust me about anything, they are always up in my buissness, and they don't talk to me and I can't talk to them. Maybe it just goes with being a teen, but it's really confusing me. It's almost like they are hidding something from me, but i don't know how to confront them about it. Any ideas?

Step parent issues? I have a teenager who had friend over the house while we were out. My husband (being 20 years in the military) is stomping around the house, thretening to leave me, because I wont beat her ass. I took her keys and phone away. I think this is enough. My husband is a step father to this teen by the way. I don't see myself as a lax parent. I just but head with my husband because I think he is too hard and unforgiving. This is going to end our marrage because he can't get his own way over dicipline he says he going to leave. I don't know how to bring the peace back in my home.

Parent issues...? My mom and dad are like totally crazy they say the most wierdest questions for no reason and then the bury me with stupid questions. I'm 13 and so not a brat ut it never stops. They stay on the fone with some friends that i hate most fiercly all day and never give me any atention untill 8 then they bury me with questions again...what do i do...they think that its rong to have gfs and things like that for no good reason...and they do not get happy over all of my accomplishments latley and lookat all the bad qualities...its was not like this at first... i dont have a gf...and they act like i do dugs and stuff...trust me im not that type of boy

Parent Issues? I want to get some ideas about what to do with my mom. I'm 18. I don't have a car, am not allowed to work, and have to ask to go with friends. I know, sad, but my mom refuses to pay for my schooling unless i follow her rules. She says i can move out if i can pay for it but i can't get a job. I want to got to med school but 10 years of college without freedom is a bit much. I'll be 30 and still under her evil vice grip1 Any ideas?

Parent issues. Please help me! What do you think I should do? My dad came in town this week. He usually travels to Chicago for his job. So everyday this week he's been gone with his girlfriend and I wanted to spend time with him. He also said he's going to help me out and buy a tv for me,. It's Friday, and I still havn't spent time with him, nor has he bought my tv for me. Isn't this wrong? And now I'm telling myself, "is his girlfriend more important than I am? This is his only week that he can spend time with me." And his girlfriend is just wasting his money. He can't even realize it. So what should I do?

please help parent issues!!!!!!? my parents were fighting yesterday and they havnt talked since r they slipting up????

Boy and Parent Issues? My parents hate my boyfriend. And when I say "hate" I mean that they REALLY HATE him. My dad said that if he died tomorrow then he would be happy and last week when my BF and I were driving in my car, we got hit from behind and my dad said that he wishes that my BF broke his back or something bad happened to him. I cant stand hearing this BS and it really hurts when I love him so much. I'm almost 20 years old and still living at home (moved out for about 8 months, and now im back) but I cant stand this. They want me to break up with him, but I love him way to much to do such a thing. Please give me advice as to what I should do. My dad told me that I have to choose between my bf and them and I dont think thats fair at all.

Step parent issues? ok i have a stepmom who always thinks she's the king of the world(or queen whichever you prefer).she always brags about how she does all the work at her job,and how everyone else is inferior.i know she got fired because of her taking to many days off and calling in an hour before her shift began.apparently her ego is so high she thought that they really needed her and wouldn't fire her for this. at home my stepmom is very lazy and has everyone else around the house to do all the chores and clean the house.mostly me and my step-brother.we have 3 small inside dogs who go on newspaper inside.my stepmom has me always picking up after them (this is my job she says)feeding them,and entertaining them.i understand that is part of having dogs,but shouldn't it be a family task not just me taking care of them.my stepmom says the reason she doesn't pick up the newspaper while i am at work (i work form 10am-9pm every other day) is because it is not her job.so it will sit there like that (cont) with pis on it all day from the last time i changed it around 9:30 am.luckily that is only when my step-brother is not at home,he picks it up when i am at work.and all my stepmom does is lay in bed and use the computer,and eat.so every hour she wants me to check on them.but if they go in between that how my stepmom says that i am not doing my job,and then tells my dad how lazy i am and how i don't do my chores.the only time i see her do anything is when my dad is home.oh then she starts helping out with the dogs,but only a little bit.me and my step-brother are so sick of her that we plan to move out soon.then we will have the good laugh when se has to do everything around the house.i can tell you what with my dad it needs to be clean,otherwise he will have you clean the whole house and make it spotless. also since she has no legal custody of me should her name be on my savings account?or should she read my mail(ingoing and outgoing),e-mail (again incoming and outgoing),see who i am calling,and snooping around my room.i know most parents snoop around their kids room but considering i am at home most of the time when i am not at work, what does she think i will bring home?drugs?trust me i don't do those kind of things because one i will get caught and lose my job.

Please help! Girlfriend/girlfriend parents issues...? I have been dating the best girl in the entire world for 14 months now! I love her so much! However, I am having a few problems. When we are with her parents, I am not exactly the center attention (trust me, i dont really want to be), but the thing is, i am the exact opposite. I am rarely noticed. The only time i am is if i say anything that is of any interest to anyone or if it is benifital to themselves. But even that lasts a very short period of time. I wouldnt call them "rich" but more upper-middle class, and I grew up just middle class. And sometimes all the stuff they do gets to me. Like they dont want to pay for her college, yet they want to take extravagant vacations. Her mom wears the pants in the family and is very old fashioned. My family has accepted my girlfriend as family 6 weeks after they met her, her mom, however, doesnt treat me, or my own family, like family or even a close friend, and wont until we are engaged. I know I cannot change her parents, but what can I do?!

Parent Issues.... any ideas on how to afford moving out? My mom is a super cow, and living with her makes me cry and get very depressed. My ex-psychiatrist told me to move out, as did my ex-psychologist, two years before the psychiatrist said it! So it's a long term thing. It's "irreconcilable differences" and it's not likely to get better enough to make it worth staying her. That being said, I need to have some idea of a cheap way to move out. I have a whole bunch of furniture I can take, and I have friends who also desperately need to move, but how can we manage it? Also, are there any tips on any other ways to get out etc? Or does anyone have an alternate solution other than dealing with her? We even saw a family counsellor this year who also *shock, horror* told me to move. It really won't work... I've tried everything I can think of. Please help! I'm 19 years old, and I don't have a job atm because I was finishing year 12 and was told to concentrate on that and that alone. I'm now looking for a job, and just finished applying for a few, as it happens :P And may I add- I hate being a freeloader, I think people who do it are selfish, and I am one under duress. I want a job, and assuming I get one, that's where the answers to this qst come in lol

parent issues need advice? I need some advice on how I should deal my dad, He just got back from work (goes out of town) I never see him for 3 months at a time. All he does is watch tv or does some other thing, he's never interested in me or my school. I could a week straight without talking to him.. I finally ask him what's wrong, does he even care. He just says whatever and tells me he has a show coming on. I feel like running away, my mom doesn't give a shit either. she works till midnight and just sleeps when she comes home, she always sides with him anyways. this has made me depressed for so many months. WHAT SHOULD I DO? thx

Parent Issues? My mom always complains that I don't like doing chores. She says that I will never get married and have a horrible future due to my dislike of chores. Problem is that I do do my chores, but I know that she will do the work if it is left long enough so I spend my time studying instead of cleaning. Is it possible that I will have a horrible future and not get married because I'm more future oriented so I don't care about my surroundings. Also she is complaining for me to get a job, I applied to Circuit City for my first job ever, I'm only 16 but she continues to hound me to get a job at a place where it is garunteed hired like McDonalds, but I don't want to work there. What should I do as I have to pay for everything I want as well as food. Only thing I don't pay is utilities and mortage.

parent issues? im going to a party tonight and it requires u to wear a dress. nothing formal but since its my friends 15 she would like us to wear a dress. even if its casual. so what i piked out its this dress that comes down to 3 or 4 inches above my knee. im wearing black leggins under it so i thot i looked fine cause it looks far from slu*tty/skan*ky i usually wore it w/ jeans under but today im wearing it as a dress my mom doesnt like it and says i look stupid when i really dont want the advice of a 40 year old woman. i know i look fine and my friends seen me wre it like this b4 and they say it looks cute my mom says she wont let me go to the party unless i wear jeans under it but it looks too frkn casual and shes bein really stuborn bout it when i look just fine. i mean this dress could be worn w/o leggins and it would still not look ska*nky!! what do i do to get my mom to stop bein so stupid? no i dont need u to tell me mother knows best or anything on my mothers side

Parent issues? So for New Years, my uncle gave me $100. I've been wanting to get an NFL Jersey for quite some time, but I don't have a credit card. So I ask my mom to buy it, and I'll pay her. So I give her the money, and she says she'll order it the next day. So today I ask when shes going to order it and she says "You dont need the jersey, I'm not buying it". I was like "WTF This is my money". This has gotten to me so much, that they are telling me what to do with MY money, I don't tell them what to do with theirs. Opinions? marlu: its 75 bucks, thats how much I gave her.

Parent Issues..? Alright, I'm having real problems with my father. It's like he hates me. He yells at me for silly things, sometimes when I never do anything. Everytime I start to think he changed he turns around and makes me miserable to the point I don't even care about being grounded or whatever. Does anybody have any advice to help me develop a better relationship with him? For ThinkAboutIt: I am nearly 13. He yells at me for silly things like loosing shed keys when I haven't touched them in weeks, only to find them in his pocket. It's really destroying our relationship, and I really miss my old father. For mrsbsy06: I understand what you mean, but honestly, it's much easier said then done. I feel like I can't talk to him openly anymore.

myspace parent issues? Hey guys! My dad recently made it so that my family has wireless internet that is really fast, and before we had REALLY slow internet. I didn't even bother with trying to do myspace before, but now it would be really fun since the internet is fast. The problem is, my mom is VERY overprotective and overreactive, and my dad knows everything about computers, so I'm trying to figure out the best way to ask them if I can start an account. I just want to have good smart arguments and persuasions before I ask! Any help will be GREATLY appreciated! God Bless

Help! Might be moving..plus parent issues!? I'm 13. I've never moved before,& I'm mostly happy where I am. When I was younger,my dad moved out alot because he &my mom couldn't "work things out",then he would move back with us and it would get worse from there.he did so many awful things to my mom that I'm not comfortable mentioning on here-those memories horrify me to this day&I feel like I did not get the loving parents I deserved. I recently told a former teacher about these things-i trust her. I'd never talked w/ anyone about it before so it was very hard to get up the nerve. To this day we are close,&she periodically checks in on me&reminds me that she's always there for me. my mom has been out of work for 2 years,&has been ill w/ a neurological disease for months which has caused problems within my family.(money)My dad moved to another town & works there,supporting my education,etc. My mom says we may have to move and live w/ him, but i'm scared he'll do those things again to us & I'll be so far away from my teacher...help!

money and parent issues? ok i got a job and i earned all the money i have because i dont get payed otherwise i made about $370 in a month i bought assassins creed for xbox and then call of duty4 also for xbox this was all bought with MY money. my report card came home and i got all Bs ecept two grade wich were 75 and a 71. now my mom is all mad and she wont let me spend MY money that I worked for on the new game rockband for the xbox Is this fair or should i be able to buy rockand? i need a answer and why this is a serious question

need help about parenting issue? my ex wifes new husband sleeps in bed with my 6 year old daughter and i have a big problem with this and i dont know what to do to stop this inappropriate behavior.i have talked to my ex on several occasions about this and she says its none of my business.can i take her to court on this

can you Please help me with a parenting issue? My 11 year old daughter refuses to wear her lipstick. She says it puts those marks on her cigarettes and she hates it. How do I get her to realize wearing lipstick is important especially at her age? Do I ground her, take away cell phone, etc?

HELP! Step Parent issues!? I absolutely positively hate my step dad for all that he is and now I am resenting my mom for marrying him and sticking up for him and the only reason she and my father are divorced is because she cheated on him and tells me everyday that she regrets it and wishes she could turn back time. She also finds most of the time that she can't stand him either!! I am just so disgusted w. him and his verbally degrading behavior and personality. How can I keep calm around him. If you are going to tell me to grow up, maybe you are right, but don't be mean.

Is it fair to loose friendship because of parents issues? I had a friend since primary until last year June because his father is devorcing her mother because her mother cheated with a guy fo couple of years and one day i accidentaly find her mother with the guy but i didn't say a word to anyone not even my friend. Now she is angry because her mother said i once saw her so i am the cause of their separation and my friend thinks so too.She no longer calls or come to my place when i asked her she just say i am a snake and when i asked why does she call me that she just say we are better off not being friends any more and she even resigned at work because i'm working there. So since June last year things were different and i think things are better this cause less of problems. Do i sound selfish or act selfish to give up on my friend just like that because her mother made me her scape goat. Please help cause people at work thinks i have a problem.

Issues with parents? When I was small my parents beat/spanked me a lot. I wasn't a bad kid, but I did have anger issues because I was never allowed to express my anger in any way for fear of getting beaten or yelled at. They became more emotionally abusive when I entered my teens, and now, every time I get close to them, they hurt me and I just feel like isolating myself from them. I get angry with them and I tell myself that I hate them and that I can't wait to get as far away from them as possible. These thoughts hurt me WAY more than it hurts them because they don't even know about how I feel. Whenever I try telling them that their actions hurt me or whatever, they don't listen, they say stuff like "you will NOT make me look like a bad parent" and they criticize me. I really don't know what to do, and I'm even considering suicide because I'm hurting so badly. Can anyone help? They ARE loving sometimes, but their moods are just so confusing. One second they can be nice and the next mean..that's why it hurts so much, because sometimes I do love them. And to the second guy, I'm not a man, I'm a girl I'm a senior in high school

Discipline issues? parents please or if you are not a parent please ask a parent.? I have a 5YO son. My boyfriend's son. So i have unofficial adopted him and i have no children of my own. But i do have a 5YO nephew. Whom I have particularly help my sister raise. But anyhow. My son's mother is not completely in his life. She only calls when she wants to pick him up. Which is only for a day and a half. My problem is that his teachers are almost labeling him as having some attention issues. But i don't see this as the case. I see it as as not enough of the proper attention. He has some argue issues where he has punched or hit some students in his class. I have taken all his toys out his room. NO TV. He has stood in the corner on several occassions. Even spanked him. But it is not absorbing. And he definitely understands. Because I asked him to stop doing a particular thing 3 times and he understood that he should have stopped but continued. Help please

legal issues with parents? Is it legal for parents to threaten their children with death? Are there any legal issues for parents causing their children emotional damage?