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Parenting Advice? Hey all you parents out there. Are you tired, like I am, of people asking parenting questions and giving parenting advice that don't have children?
What is the worst parenting advice you have ever received? I have been given a lot of parenting advice over the years and have even tried some of the suggestions. I have since learned to just trust my own instincts. What I want to know is what is the worst or craziest advice you've ever been given, and did you try it?
How do I tell my friend to stop giving me parenting advice? My friend is giving me parenting advice non stop because she's been reading a parenting book written by a Nun (of all people to talk about being a parent) and she isn't even a mom herself! I have a 2 year old who is just like every other 2 year old. She doesn't want to eat, she throws fits etc.. But anyone will tell you that I'm a great mom and that my daughter is happy and a sweetheart. I'm sick of being told " Don't feed her this, don't ever do that.. don't punish ever!" I keep thinking "Just wait until theres a dirty diaper smeared across your kitchen wall or your kid is having a tantrum in the store and you are forced to leave" I would never ever spank my daughter but my friend is going so far as to tell me never to even give time outs. Who is she to give me this advice? She's been married for barely a year and has no idea what parenting is like. She's driving me nuts!!!
What is the best parenting advice you have? For children of all ages. Any advice at all. ~ I think mine would be to get video, lots of it. Because children grow up so much faster than planned.
What is the weirdest parenting advice you have ever recived ? Ok so I really hate it when people come up to you and try to give you parenting tips and they have no idea what they are talking about. It doesn't matter if they are family, friends or strangers. So whats the most off the wall thing someone has told you? BLEACH OMG! that caller needs to be arrested and renered mute so that no one will ever listen to them again!
What is the worst parenting advice you ever received from your mom or mother in law? Not to disgrace the grandparents, but some of their advice, while well meaning, is a little out of date. For instance both my mom, future MIL and future step MIL told me to give my baby chocolate milk since she didn't want her formula.....they were only trying to help...but lord knows that is the worst thing I could do! LOL What's the worst advice you have been given? Don't be mean, it's just a lighthearted question, not meant to be inflammatory.
Should a pediatrician gives parenting advice? I took my 7 month old to pedi yesterday for check up. All the sudden, pediatrician is giving me tips on being a good parent, how to wean my baby off of night nursing etc. None of this was necessarily asked for, and I was just wondering...since when did pediatricians become parenting experts? I know they are child experts, and I'm sure they, like anyone have their own opinions on how to raise a child, but is it their place to give parenting advice when not asked for?
Pregnancy and parenting advice for a 17 year old mother? I am 17 years old and I may, very likely, be pregnant. I posted a question on here yesterday about adoption, but after reading the answers and talking to my boyfriend about it, we have decided almost 100% that we will keep it. I was just wondering if any teen mothers, or just mothers in general, have any advice for me as to how to deal with the pregnancy and being a teen mother. Anything will help! Thank you!
Anyone know a chat site for parenting advice? I need help, with my childs behavior. Do you know a chat site that has experts on parenting?
Do people who have no children insist on giving you parenting advice? My oldest is almost 17 (also have 2 other boys 15 and 8) and from the time that I concieved, I constantly had people telling me what I should or shouldnt do, espcially my brother who has no children and has pretty much never even been around kids. I think its one thing when a parent gives you advice since they had already been through the same things but when they've had no children then put thier 2 cents in, dontcha just wanna say "Did I ask you??" BTW, this is a general Q. I dont have a specific problem I am referring to. I guess this is more like a rant. And my brother, I rarely even talk to anymore so....
Why do we look to doctors for parenting advice? Since when did doctors go to medical school to tell us how to raise, nurse, feed, and clothe our children?
What do you say to someone who is giving you parenting advice yet they are not parents? It irritates the crap out of me, I just want to be able to tell them to F off in a polite way. You can have book and schoolknowledg on kids sure. It's still not the same you don't have that bond that a mother has with her child. That is a unique experience like no other.
Why do people without children find it necessary to give parenting advice? It's like this...I have always watched ER, and I have been operated on...that does not mean that I am a doctor and should offer my answers to any question I want in the medical section of Y!A.
Does anyone know a good guide or advice for teen parenting for a single father? I need either advice or a parenting guide for a single father of a teen daughter. I'm not being a brat either, he really did ask me to find out other people's opinions for him, so honest answers please.
Polite way to deal with unsolicited pregnancy/parenting advice & awkward questions? I'm 24 wks along with my 1st. Advice from friends, family, and complete strangers has already started rolling in, along with awkward questions from total strangers. How to deal? I'd rather not be rude. For example: When I tell people we're only planning on having one child, some of them act like it's a form of child abuse not to provide my kid with a sibling. When strangers ask me about my breastfeeding plans. Yes, I plan on breastfeeding, but is it really everyone else's business?? People who try to talk me into or out of things like epidurals, cervical blocks, and natural, drug-free childbirth...and then there's the whole stay-at-home mom vs. working mom issue...all personal decisions... I've even had little old ladies ask me about my bowel movements?!? Just wondered how the rest of you dealt or are dealing with all that... Maybe the pregnancy hormones are making me extra annoyed...thanks :)
Has someone asked for your parenting advice only to not use it? My friend does this all the time. She says that my kid is very well behaved but she doesnt bother to use my suggestions. Why does she even ask me? I'm not saying she is a bad mom, she is great mother to HER daughter. She just does things different and thats fine.
Where in the UK can I get parenting advice for my 8 year old.? She is as good as gold for her childminder and at school but turns into the child from hell at home, I have tried reward charts grounding, naughty step, taking things away E.T.C but nothing helps, the health visitors seem to lose interest when children turn 5.
How would YOU react to parenting advice from Kate McCann? See Adams Q. And no I am not Adam before I get accused! lol Personally I would take umbridge at advice on how to bring my 2 up, from her. http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071022105924AAEko0O&r=w&pa=FZptHWf.BGRX3OFMiDdVV45x6JbNWulRrylKFyBCsBIQGeD6gQ--&paid=answered#EIR8LUHcMUOnhlbG4nB8
info on writing parenting advice columns? I am really interested in writing parenting advice columns for a paper or magazine for a career. i have my bachelors and associates in Early childhood education as well as my teaching certificate for ages birth-5y/o. i was hoping someone could point me in the right direction as i have googled everything i could think of. thanks
Any parenting advice for too tired 5 yr old? My son was always a good napper. He starts school in just a few weeks, and has been going without naps all summer at daycare. He's put in some long days. Lately, he's been having very bad meltdowns around 6PM-7PM. I've been trying to get him to bed earlier, and let him sleep a little later (no later than 7 AM, try to put to bed by 9 PM). Any thoughts? School may be easier because its less physical than even his days off with me. I'm still very concerned, and am having a hard time dealing with mealdowns that last a long time, like a collicky baby. I've tried getting him to bed earlier, but somehow he gets energy when not good to get it. 9 PM is about as good as its going to get, maybe 8:30.
Collecting advice about parenting twins, especially right after coming home? from hospital. I have 5 older children, but the twin thing intimidates me right down to the ground. Would love to get advice from the source, if I could.
Bible passages for advice on parenting please? can someone please tell me what passages I could read for those in despair, and those having difficulty with parenting and family.
Need good parenting advice - tell the awful truth or lie? I have done a lot of stupid things when I was young (drink, smoke pot, sex before marriage). I am not proud of this, but it is the truth and I do regret it. My daughter looks up to me and I wonder what I should tell her when she is a teenager? Do I tell her "I NEVER did that stuff and you shouldn't either"? (kind of like a role model approach) or should I be honest and say, "I made a lot of mistakes and I don't want you do do the same" I don't want to risk her using it against me later saying "well you did it when you were young so I will too!" Anyone have a similar situation?
parenting advice? How do you teach a 5 yr old to sleep in his own bed?? I've made the mistake of letting my 5 yr old sleep with us since he was born....I realize my stupid mistake now, so spare me the "I told you so's". We have bought him a twin bed and can't get him to sleep in it all night. I have to go in and wait for him to go to sleep, then sneak out to my own bed. He wakes up inevitably at some point in the night and cries for me, at which I have to go back in there and start all over. Not getting much sleep. Help? Anyone else go thru this? Any advice would be appreciated.
parenting advice!!!??? what do you do with an 11yr old boy who does'nt care what punishment he gets. i've grounded him from everything ( playing, t.v. music. ect..... i need to rattle his cage to make him see some sort of light and realize this is not a game. i would like some ideas for punishmentsthat might wake him up!!! i don't want to sound like a hatefull parent but i don't have any more ideas than what i've mentioned. I'm very concerned with his attitude towards his family. PLEASE HELP ME HELP HIM SEE THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS. i also reward my children for proper behavior
parenting advice? I have two children and I am overprotective. I have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter. My daughter sleeps with me and my son sleeps in our room in another bed. I am having trouble letting them out of my room. We have had a "peeping tom" which makes me uncomfortable. The other issue is that I am worried if our house were to catch fire, I would not be able to get to them. We have had several children in our area killed in house fires where the parents get out alive. I don't want that to happen to me. I love my children, I just feel that they are a little young to help themselves in a bad situation. What should I do?
Has anyone joined any forums for pregnancy and parenting advice? If so what are your favorite sites? I met a great bunch of women at www.mommyandfriends.com
Parenting advice????? I have a 5 year old daughter that seems to have a very hard time when it comes to authority figures and being given rules. I have a three month old baby and i don't know if it because she is feeling left out(being the only child in the family for so long). She seemed to be fine at first but she has took a turn for the worst. I spoke to her teacher at school and she said that she is the sweetest girl at school and has never had any problems with her. She is becoming increasingly violent with other kids. I know that she is a kid, but, violence is unacceptable and i dont know what we should do to get a handle on it. Help please.!!!
Teens ages 13-18 and are pregnant or parenting--What advice would you give to teens in the same position? Your help in answering this will help me soo much with a class project. It would also help to include your age with your answer. Thanks for you help, and I also have other questions under the HOMEWORK HELP section--if you would help me get those answered, too, it would be great. Thanks so much.
Whats the best advice you ever received when parenting your newborn? I am just a couple weeks away (or less :)) from meeting my first born child ...and just looking for some good advice that would be helpful to a new mommy....I am having a boy and from the looks of it (as he is weighing in already at 8lbs) he is going to be a big healthy baby!!! We are very excited!
Parenting advice? My partner and I are having a disagreement.Our son jumps in puddles. I think we should get him rain boots. My husband thinks he should mind and stay out of them. What do you think? ROLF!!! He is 3.
which of the following sources of parenting advice....? ,,, have you ever actually used. Not just read or listened to the advice, but actually implemented it? (1) advice from your parents; (2) advice from your in-laws; (3) advice from other relatives or friends; (4) advice from random strangers; (5) advice from parenting books or tv shows relating to parenting (6) advice from a parenting class (7) advice from Y!A bonus question -- if the answer to #7 is "are you crazy, I'd never actually use advice I got on this board!" then how many questions have you asked on this board?
Parenting advice or support of somebody in similar situation? I'm in a really confusing situation.I'm 19 and I have no parents or known relatives.I've been living alone already 2-3 years.My best friend(Kate,23-year-old) isn't married and has two daughters ages 7 and 3.A month ago her kids were taken away by CSP because she spanked(in fact - beated) really hard both of them for disobedience.When they were born,because of being a single parent,she had to choose a person who would take care of her children if something happens to her.She chose me.After this incident,the guardianship over the kids was given to me.Kate doesn't want them and cares of them because there were problems with giving them for adoption.Now the kids live with me already 4 days and seem to be alot happier,the little one even calls me mummy.Kate insists on me caring for them and doesn't want to see them again.She lives in another state and that won't be a problem.If someone can help me with parenting advice or a friendship,I'd be very grateful.My email is beingstopped@yahoo.com
Does anyone have any recommendations for any websites/books that offer parenting advice for kids with sp need? I have a 2and ahalf year old son with Autism and I need help finding advice to help with things like getting him to use a sippy cup and potty training and getting him to chew solid foods(he still eats baby food) Any body Know of any good Books,magazines or websites? Any answers are greatly appreciated. Thanks
Please give One good peice of parenting advice.? I'm going to be a mum soon and want to know what you as a parent wish someone had of told you before your children were born.
I need some helpful hints and advice on parenting skills.? I am 17 yrs old and i have a baby on the way by my 16 yr old girlfriend she will be 17 this month i am a senior in high school and she a junior. She have started researching this and i figured i could to because I wont to be a real father. I don't have a main question but can u just give me some advice any will be good because I am not really prepared for this.
Old-School Parenting Advice? I just had a baby last week, and already my bf's mother is filling his head with her outdated, old-school parenting advice. How do I politely tell her to go take a hike?
Whats the worst piece of parenting advice , you ever received? I once was told, to put my child in a very cool bath, to help reduce a high fever.... very very wrong suggestion. A person body can go into shock if this is done.-per doc advice
How do you tell someone you do not want their advice on pregnancy and parenting? My husband and I have a friend who thinks he is the world's best parent and that he knows all about parenting and child raising. Fine. But he also makes negative comments to us (we are 7 weeks pregnant). " You're going to be so tired... you're not going anywhere.... you'll see what we go through ... you two will have some problems ... call me I'll help you through it." It's so annoying! And on top of this, we don't like his parenting. His kid lives in front of video games and computers...ONLY. How do you politely tell him to shut up?
what parenting advice do you prefer? I am a BTDT mom of 2. One girl age 3, one boy age 5. I've been through all the infant and toddler stages so I really feel like I have something to offer based on experience not just "by the book". I have come to enjoy Y!A but I sometimes feel like the "by the book" parenting style has taken precedence over experienced advice. Much of the strict advice scares new moms into thinking they are doing wrong by their babies and takes the whole joy out of parenting and watching your child grow as an individual, not as a "by the book" clone. I firmly believe that each baby and family is as unique as the next. I try and answer based on the info in the question and not immediately say "BFing is best, no exception", (as an example). So what's the consensus? Do you prefer advice from BTDT even if it strays from more popular guidelines or are you just looking for the standard black and white textbook answer? I really appreciate your input.
Handling unwanted parenting advice from the family - HELP!!!? My husband and I have a 3 year old son. We are good parents who have specific, thoroughly - researched guidelines for how we want him to be raised. Certain members of his family, however (especially his wonderful sister), offer us unwanted "advice" constantly. It's not really advice, so much as it's constant judging and criticism of EVERYTHING - how we dress him and cut his hair, what we feed (and don't feed) him, how we want to educate him, discipline, safety precautions, etc. We are GOOD parents who wouldn't do anything we didn't think was right for our son, but we are still judged on most of the things we do. Here's the thing - while she's worked with kids for a few years, she has none of her own. Hubby blew up at her tonight, which really caused some family tension. I didn't want to get involved, but I agree with Hubby. It's disheartening to get this constant criticism. I want to be the peacemaker, but explain to her how we feel so she'll understand. Any suggestions? Just to clarify, SIL is a very sweet and caring woman, but this isn't simple advice, like, "Oh, you should do this." Instead, she tells us what we should be doing (right in front of our son, which totally takes away any authority we have as parents) and then demands to know why we aren't doing it her way. The recent incident was over a car booster seat that Hubby bought after doing thorough research and getting the OK from our pediatrician. SIL meant well, but kept pushing her beliefs and telling Hubby he shouldn't be taking the "risk" with his son. So while I appreciate her caring, she really makes us feel like crap after we put so much time and effort researching and deciding what's best for our son, especially since she's not a parent. She does have a career working with kids, but that's not the same as having one of her own. She doesn't understand that it's a whole new ball game, and why it's so inappropriate to question everything we do. This has been happening since day 1!
Weird parenting advice? well im not a big fan of the parenting of my neighbors, and my boyfriend recently told me that the father found some parenting advice online that says if both ur older and younger child are crying, always give your attention to the older one crying. anyone ever hear of such a thing? and i dont mean letting a newborn cry cause its good for there nervous system, i mean like a 1 year old and 4 year old. and where can i find a webpage on this? i dont mean let a newborn cry forever, i mean u let them cry for 2 minutes here, one minute there occasionally.
Got any crazy mother-in-law parenting advice or stories? Old country advice from my MIL when I had my first baby: Don't take the bottle out of his mouth so fast, you'll rip his tongue out. You are holding him wrong, you'll break his back. He should always have socks on, even on the hottest days. What's the craziest MIL advice you've received????
People without children giving parenting advice??? Can someone PLEASE tell me why people who never had children of their own, or have never really even spent that much time around them feel that they are qualified to give parenting advice????? These people are so blatently ignorant to the realities of raising kids but yet cannot seem to help but give some of the most ridiculous "advice" that I have ever heard. Please read before responding... I specifically included people that DONT spend time around children in my question.
to save gotti time and points from asking questions what is the best parenting advice you can give her?? The best advice i ever got from my mother was "CAlM DOWN no one has ever taken a baby away for that" much to my shame i made so many mistakes as a mom my first two weeks and was always on the phone crying to mom how i forget to check the bottle temp or i forgot to give her the morning dose of medicine or the time i was halfway home before i realized that i had forget to pick her up from daycare. thanks for the response but give your own ADVICE!!!!! I have a feeling GOTTI will need all the help she can get!!! This is a virtual shower game!!!!
parenting advice? I have a 5-yr old son and a baby on the way. My concern is with my husband. He doesn't seem to be very concerned with disciplining/educating/raising our son and I think I must be crazy to have another child. My husband works long hours-16 or so a day. I know he must be tired, but we still have a family to take care of. He never really had much of a father himself, and I think he thinks children more or less raise themselves. My dilemma is that I want him to take more interest in teaching or son right from wrong. I feel like I'm having to do it all-and starting to resent it. An example of his behavior would be this: We were in a restaurant for lunch and our son was acting up. I asked him to take him to the bathroom and get him under control. He ignored me-and the behavior of our son-until I finally had to do it myself. This is typical of his behavior toward our son, and I don't know how to get him on board. How do I get him to help me?
Parenting advice!!!!? I have a friend whose 12 year old son is really going down the wrong path. Her son recently stole $30 from her, and to make it worse it was money she told him to hold on to for her because she had no pockets. She went to get the money from his room the next morning while he was at school, and it was gone. When she questioned him when he got home, he said he didn't know what happened to it. She has tried groundings and spankings, neither of which work. How should she handle this situation???
Parenting advice...? my boyfriend and I have kids of our own and both have different beliefs in how we raise our kids. my daughter is 3yrs old and his son is 4yrs old.although i understand that they will be clingy and what not and they learn at their own pace but how i raise my daughter is that i want her to independant yet able to come to me when she wants her questions answered that i will be there for her no matter what! she is very independent...she could zip up her own jacket from 2yrs old and does everything by herself as if she was an adult...I guess my question is how can i help his son to be independent without expecting his dad to do everything for him? and how can i explain to his son that bugs are not scary and the dark is not scary...we have a night light for him and we read to the both of them...oh i can go on and on but i will stop here now and continue more another time and thanx for the answer's!
Parenting advice?? If you came hom a little early one night(you were supposed to be gone until the next night) and saw your son and his girlfriend sleeping in eachother's arms, would you assume they had sex?? Would you say anything to them?? He was in boxers, and her in a bra and panties. Would you assume they had sex or just fell asleep?? They are both 16. What exactly would you do or say?? Would you listen to you child?? (more info in other ?) What will my husband do to my son?? He is coming home in a little bit and will see this. Would my husband be on my son's side or upset?? He always asks my son if he kissed this girl or that girl. She was in little, sexy underwear too, like they planned on seeing it. Do I wait til tom when they wake up or wake them now??
parenting advice? My three year old is a big problome she takes off her pullups and pees on the floor and if she poops she smeers it on the floor and on the wall now i'v cleaned it up 4 times now and i have to do it again she repetaly keeps doing this and i'v tried everything spanking , timeout , and the corner. she wont leave her pollups on and when she takes it off she pees on the floor just to make me mad i dont know what to do HELP me please!!! she is constntly wakeing up my 8 month old son so im on my feet all the time no peace and quit im going to have a nervise brake down
parenting advice? my kids a little devil. I dont know what to do because the schools asking me where the bruises are coming from. how do I make him behave and not get caught?
Stepson giving parenting advice? My stepson(17) wants to be a psychologist and is currently taking psychology in the 12th grade.Suddenly he is an expert at parenting. Anytime I make a decision to do something, he will chime in with "you know, you really shouldn't give them ___ if they ___" (keeping in mind these are MY kids and they KNOW I don't give them things I promise them if they are bad unless they properly make ammends and such,or i make some other qualified parenting call),or if the kids are being slightly bad, but I'm not getting on to them, he will say "You know, letting them get away with that will cause them a lot of ____ in the future"(I guess he's never heard of choosing your battles?)This is driving me nuts, it really is. I love him and HE IS NOT BEING UGLY-I know him, he sincerely thinks he is helping-how do I tell him STOP! without crushing his spirit-He has finally found a passion, but he needs to learn that Psych. advice from a teen is not welcomed to a seasoned parent, whose has pretty good kids FYI-most of the things he is "advising" me on are just typical "KID THINGS"- I always intervene as a parent when NEEDED.....I just ALSO realize that if I am intervening ALL the time, they would never learn to handle things on their own One more FYI- I am not his biological parent, but I am his adoptive parent....his bio-mom has gone AWOL for a while now, so I am "mom" to him
PARENTING ADVICE Appropriate response and discipline for 10 yr old daughter defiant? I just found out (from the busdriver) that my 10 year old daughter and her friends (AND MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER;HER LIL SISTER WITH WHO IS 5) purposely missed bus today because they wanted to ride a different bus that their friends were on. They missed that one too and proceeded to 'Walk' 2 school which is a very busy rd/hwy to walk. They were stopped and put on another bus and my daughter then lied to her principal and told him i said she could ride another bus. I'm beyond floored, i am so distraught and shocked (she knows better, she does!!) i havent a clue what to do. I havent done anything yet but tell her to sit on her bed and wait for me, but i feel if i go in there right now (yes i have bad temper, all bad emotions turn into anger with me) i'm just going to scream or beat the hell out of her. Her dad's on his 3rd tour to Iraq and has been gone 10months already, due to come back next week for first time since leaving and will only have 14 days and have 2 go back. PARENTING ADVICE?!?
ever notice the ones who try to give out parenting advice are the same folks with no kids or only see theirs.. Ok, ever notice that the folks who like eto give parenting advice are the same folks who only see their own kids every other weekend, or don't even have their own kids at all? I'm talking in general here, and don't just mean on yahoo answers...a wonderful community for learning and teaching me to raise my children right. However, I'm talkingabout my good pal, Dan. He feels since he sees his one and only son every other weekend, he has some authority to tell me how to raise my own kids. (he is Daniel Q. on my 360 page) hmmmm, posted on the boards, yet 22 minutes went by and no one answered. Guessing maybe this forum is full of childless advisors as well.
I need Parenting advice for 3 year old? Making the baby, having the baby and the first year of my daughters life Was much easier than now! I don’t even want to think when she becomes a tween or a teen ager. My situation: daughter is 3 yrs old, very stubborn, very active mischievous but very sweet, at times she does listen of what mommy has to say but I have to be stern with her. There are times that I have to raise my voice to the point of yelling, also use threats of spanking her butt, I have spanked her in the past but I no longer want to use spanking, or raising my voice at the point of yelling to get her to listen. I know it takes time and patience to raise a child, but I running out of both. I do take time out for myself since I do not want to snap. So I am asking the advice of the parents out there who are wiser than me, who have been in a similar situation to please advice me on techniques that might work better in form of consequences for my daughters bad actions. In advance thank you to all of you parents out there who have taken the time to give me some advice.
Parenting advice needed (Sibling fighting)? I'm at my wits end, and could use some advice from older more experienced parents or grandparents out there. I have a 5 yr old son, and 8 yr old daughter. Lately they have started bickering, fighting, and hitting eachother. Frankly it's getting out of hand, and what ever I do they dont seem to listen or care. Often times they will get into these huge fights in their rooms-they have seperate rooms, but it doesnt seem to help. When they both come up to me, and acuse the other of hitting, kicking, biting, calling names-you name it. I have no idea who started it because their not doing it where I can see them. So then I'm confused on how to even handle the situation when I have no clue who hit,ect first. This is driving me crazzy, and I need to get a handle on it now. Shouldnt they be past this at their ages? How can I handle it? WE DO NOT HIT IN OUR HOME so we need a gentle approach. Besides I dont see justification in spanking, or hitting a child for punishment. Thanks! What really gets to me is the constant tattling. They constantly come up to me, and tell on the other. "mom sissy hit me" No "____ hit me first" So of course I tell the older one hitting back isnt ok either. But then I also want them to solve their own problems amongst them selves. Many of the fights could be settled between them by them without parent involvement. This is what gets me frustrated the most.
Parenting Advice.... Please? I have been out of a job for quite sometime now. I got desperate one day and shoplifted with my six year old with me. My six year old had to witness me being arrested. She has been through so much and she is only six. I have a hard time with her being a single parent and all. Anyone have any good advice? my daughters father is not in the picture, I am suppose to get child support (we all know how that goes), and I get some state help.
Parenting Advice - 9 yr old and adult web sites? Well, we had an eventful day. Our son was caught loading up adult web sites at his grandparents house. When he came home, my wife and I discussed what was going on. We come to find out that one of his 'friends' had shown him adult web sites at another one of his friends houses. A review of my son's computer showed that he has visited adult web sites several times over the last few weeks. These are fully graphic images. Needless to say, NetNanny is now installed and blocking everything. A few thoughts and questions: Is he too young for the birds and the bees discussion? (Or are we too late) We aren't sure which friend originally showed this to our son and we aren't sure which of his friends have seen the same images. Any advice on those conversations with the parents? Is this normal for boys this age to be curious? Frankly, we are bothered that he has been loading these sites on his own and even did it at his grandparent's house. He is a great kid and we wish we could undo this all.
best parenting advice? best advice you have ever gotten, or could give a new parent?
Need some parenting advice? I have a 10 month old baby boy. I am around him all the time. Well, here recently since he can crawl and has started getting into everything I have seemed to become more impatient or short tempered with him, I WOULD NEVER HIT MY SON! But I do raise my voice. I feel sometimes I do everyhting I can and Its not enough. I need some advice on 1. ways to help me be more patient 2. new games to play with a 10 minth old he is crawling and trying to walk now. He is saying little things like DADA and mama, nana, sometimes he yells bye, and other little words. Any advice is welcome I just need advice and soon.
Family Parenting advice. Only older parents please? Im really worried about my 5yo niece. I have a beautiful, healthy, bright 5yo niece who started kindergarten this year. The trouble is that Im growing increasingly worried that she wont stay that way. My sister in law is basicaly IMO a horrible mother or at least has slim to no motherly instincts. Sleeps all day causing her lil girl to be late to school, spends 0 time trying to teach her much of anything, constantly feeds her junk food, lazy. She is the kind of person who puts herself and her needs above that of her child. Severly lacking in responsibility. Much more concerned with how her daughter looks than if shes smart. Shes an ex-stripper so her mom was obviously no mom of the yr. Tells her daughter things like "Dont you want to be pretty so people will like you?" Im just worried that her lack of parenting is taking its toll on my niece. Shes already bottom of her kinder class. I dont live near so I dont get to spend much time either. PLZ Anyone have any ideas on how I could help? I just wanted to say thank you for all your comments and suggestions. I cant call authorities because technically she is not doing anything harmful. She just really sucks at being a mother. My brother is a good dad but is away alot working. He cares for her more than anything and would never let anything happen to her, but they just arn't responsible parents. I am not worried about my nieces saftey I just worried about her loosing out and ending up in a bad situation because her parents didnt do enough in the beginning to give her a good foundation to grow from. I just wish there was some way I could get them to be good parents and stop being so selfish. Judging from their personality if I could figure out a way to make it "cool" to be a responsible parent they would be all over it. I just dont think I can change them. I cant really talk to them without making things worse. Wish there was a way to get them interested in being good parents. Thanks everyone
Parenting advice please? I need help.I have a 12 year old son.He is a very smart,good boy,but he has a defiant attitude towards authority figures! He doesnt have any problems with drugs,etc.He is just very stubborn! Yesterday he told me he had no homework,but later he said he did,but he "wasnt doing it because he didnt feel like it"! We just moved,so he is the new kid in school.Hes in 7th grade. He gets in these defiant moods and nothing will sway him! Ive taken away his phone,xbox and games,etc.He says he doesnt care! Help! I dont know how to deal with this,or what to do! any advice? and to the comment made by priceypi.....you dont know the situation,so dont you dare tell me i havent been worried about him since birth! You obviously have NO kids of your own,and are on a high horse,judging others!Come back and lecture me when you have kids of your own to deal with! His dad has never been in the picture,or been a positive force! My husband,his step-dad treats him very well,and cares for him.I have been a constant in his life since birth,but he has lived with my mother for the past 5 years,due to his special needs in school.He has just come to live with me and go to school,because he and my father dont get along.My father just yells and threatens him! Which is what his real dad does!
Parenting Advice please help!!!? I have a daughter, in Mid. school who wants to keep going out to the movies, to her friends house and everything. I am scared if I let her go she may do bad things. But I don't want to keep her locked up forever, I do trust her it's just I have heard bad stories. Please give serious advice I am a mom who really cares. Thank You.
Parenting advice...fast!! RE: my 12 yr old daughter and complaints of menstrual cramps? She called me today from school seemingly unable to talk she was in so much pain. She doubles over holding her ribcage (not lower) and only seems to have pains at convenient times. I'm getting her her first appt w/ an OBGYN, but is there anyone else w/ similar experience? Maybe there is really truth to it? I tried to tell her life cannot stop for cramps, but her Aunt has told her she has debilitating ones, and I'm afraid my daughter is feeding off that, trying to get out of school..etc. Appreciate any advice.
Step-parenting advice? I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend of a year's two daughters (7&9) soon and I want to make a good impression. I'm worried they're going to hate me. He's been divorced for a year, and separated for a year before that. But still, putting myself in their shoes I can't imagine seeing my father with another woman. Any advice?
Unsolicited Parenting Advice? I am a young mom (23) and every time I go out with my 9 mo. old baby I am getting off the wall parenting tips/warnings, and I can't stand it. Has anyone else out there had to deal with this, and if so how did you handle it?
New mother parenting advice? I am a new mother to a three year old any advice to raise a kid?
What is the BEST parenting advice that you have ever received? For me it is simple: My mother who raised 5 of us, all beautiful and successful kids. Told me that when you have a baby it "quits being about you", and it decidely becomes about THEM, all their needs over yours, their protection over yours, their comfort (including lack of sleep) over yours. I have seen so many parents who just neglect their kids, let them cry to the point of exhaustion! And I believe that when a baby is always aware that they are number one, it gives them a profound security that makes them a happy well adjusted adult! WHAT is your pearl of parenting wisdom? daniels mommy great pearl! Man, you girls are SMART, it looks like I might learn some things in this post! Rapunzel, amazing answer, EVERY baby is different as are books! No two are exactly the same, excellent, I love that!
I would like parenting advice on shyness...? I have a very shy 9 year old daughter...she's terrified of trying new things in front of other kids, and speaks so quietly in class that no one can hear her. She is also so shy that she doesn't express her emotions until they are extreme...I've never been shy at all, so it is difficult for me to relate...I'd LOVE to help her be more comfortable and less self conscious but nothing I say seems to work...any concrete advice on helping her?
I need some parenting advice!!!? i have a 21 month old baby and we are having troble taking her bottle away. She only has a bottle when she has a nap and sleeping at night but not in the day. We have just moved her into her big bed and if fine with that but still wants her bottle at night. We are having another baby in April next year and wish to hopefully get her out of all her baby habits. I need some advice on how to do so. Please help
I need some parenting advice please ......? I am the aunt.... My sister needs the advice.... My sister is aware that she has caused this situation and would like to know what she can do now. She has a boy 8yrs old and a daughter 4yrs old. The kids don't listen to her or show much respect to her because she pretty much has given in to them always. She is always negotiating with them. Buying them something when they go out as a comprimise for good behavior. She thinks she is making them happy and in her mind is always trying to achieve that. So the kids walk all over her. Her husband gets the respect ...they listen to him for the most part becuase when he does play with them he does not let them do what he does not want them to and has always had a stern way with them.************* What can she do to re ain respect and control over them? *********** Thanks (((((example ...my nephew is butting heads with her constantly say things like ... your the meanest mommy ever.....you never play with us....you don't love us))))
need good step-parenting advice please? What do you do when you get married, but neither of you likes or loves the other person's child? WE love each other so much but can't stand each other's child! It's really bad, what do I do? It's like we live together, but in 2 years our family is still not bonded (mostly because my partner makes it very clear that her son is better than mine). She doesnt do anything blatant, but lots of little things to make sure we all know her son is waaayyyy better than my little boy. any good advice? this has not gotten better for 2 years we have lived as a family
Can anyone recommend a site or a book with parenting advice for stepparents dealing with "baby momma drama"? I need help dealing with my husband's ex, the mother of my stepson. I need practical advice, that I can use myself (since my husband won't deal with the situation). I'd appreciate a link to a site, or the name of a book, that you highly recommend. Thanks so much!
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Help I really need some parenting advice? The problem is with my oldest child and my ex. We are moving out of our town in 3 days and for the last month my ex has been trying to convince my daughter that the best thing for her is not to go with us and stay here with him. He has made her impossible promises ie to get her a job(she's only 13), no chores etc and today tried to convince her that her life here with myself, her stepdad brother and half-sister was the worse thing in the world. She is very confused as to why her dad is saying these things and I don't know how to explain it to her in a way I won't end up regretting. I don't want her to be hurt any more than she has been. I want her to be happy and she doesn't remember what it was like living with her dad. Would it be best to dredge up all the old pain and make her remember or just try to sugar coat it and lie to her? BTW he's told our son that he only wants my daughter to live with him not both of them. Any experience or advice would be appreciated. Thanks. We're only moving 45 mins. away and have already made arrangements so that regular visits will continue. Also with this move we'll be closer to my current husbands family who all have big familes. If she stays with her dad she has no close family except for her dad.
Teen parenting advice? iight, so here is the deal. You have a teenage daughter. She gets home wayy past curfew. You take away her cell phone and laptop for a few days. [reasonable punishment,I think.] Then while you have her phone, a friend's phone is stolen and someone sent a text message saying "do you wanna fuck?" What would you do? so yeah im the teen. My mother replied saying "i dont know, do you?" then the person replied with "only if you want to." Shortly after my friend got his phone back and i called him. He said he didnt know anything about it then sent a text apologizing for the messages and explaining how his phone was stolen and it wasnt any of my fault." WOW. my mom is still ticked. I have yet to talk to her. I just wanted to know what you would do in this same situation. by the way, my mother and i dont have a very great relationship. She had me at a very young age, and now completely controls my life!.. AHHH!!.. gah, im in so much trouble. Help me. =|
Some parenting advice ...? I was upset to learn that my 9 year old son is still a virgin! I am not sure what to do. I would like to whup him, but I know gays like that and I don't want him to go gay. Any suggestions?
Need parenting advice? I have a 7th grade son. He is gifted child but Edline shows he getting "C" & "D"'s this school year. If I try to speak to him, he just say "What ever." and not listning at all. He's not using a drug or anything but seems lost intrest of learning and I just can't controll him.
How do I stop my Mother in Law from pushing her awful parenting advice on me? From the time my oldest son was born (he's 28 months) I followed the Dr. Sears method of attachment parenting and I loved it, even though it was and still is hard. My son is the most secure, happy and confident toddler I know. My mother always comments on his good nature despite the fact that she discouraged me from using AP and still criticizes the method. I'm now 38 weeks pregnant and she bought me the book "babywise"...I was sickened and appalled to read this guys methods. His is the FIRST book the American Academy of Pediatrics has publicly recommended against. It's very rigid, and directly opposite to everything I believe. My MIL knows how I am. It's a secular book, but he's a religious zealot and I suspect that's at least partly why she respects his views. My question is, how do I tell her to leave me alone about my parenting methods without offending her? She's a pain in the neck and we could not be any more different in every way, but I do like her. I do think she means well. By the way, her reasoning for giving me this hellish book is that I will need it to schedule the kids. She says that she's thinking of my needs, but I'm not going to do anything to hurt my children in order to make life more convenient. Not to mention the fact that I had everything under control with my first. She just doesn't get it.
i need parenting advice..HELPPPPP? alright i just found out my girl is pregnet shes still 18 and her mother has her tied up with a imbilical cord. and her dads telling me im not soppose to ever go over there again now i understand that there afriad and all but hell i screwed up thats why im here at job corps trying to help us both but now i dont know what to do about her parents my parents are cool about it . were not going to do any abortians or adoptians were sticking with the baby now im becoming a painter and she is on her final year in highschool and shes never worked in her life . what do i do so many questions need awnsering
Step-parenting advice? I'm the step-parent of a 10 year old girl since she was 3. We have a wonderful relationship, but her relationship with her mom is not that great - I think it's because they are so much alike. Does anyone have any websites/chat forums for step-parents that I could try to bounce some ideas on?
Advice on parenting!!? Ok...so i just got voicemail informing me that my 16 year old has not been at school in last 2 days!!I My first response is to choke her,but I know that would be "bad"parenting skills so...I need some advice....What would you do?How would you handle this?She is a pretty good kid,but she knows the understanding we have...If you lie to me you lose trust....you lose trust you lose privledges and you lose the benefit of the doubt! Creative ideas especially appreciated!!
Parenting advice please read...? I have a 3 year old daughter. She has been in daycare/learning center since she was 4 months old. She has always loved going and we have never had a problem. My 1 year old goes to the same daycare. For the past 2 nights, she has started crying uncontrollably and telling me that she does not want to go to "school", that nobody likes her there and that everyone is mean to her. I have asked her if her teachers are mean to her and she says no, just the other kids in her class. She says that nobody will play with her. My husband dropped her off today, so I have not had a chance to speak with her teachers... do you think that I should or should I just let it go and see if it works itself out? I do not want to sound like an overly anxious parent to the staff but I would like to see if they can make sure that she is being included. It hurt so badly to hear my daughter this upset. I have taken the day after tomorrow off of work so that we can spend some time together... I was not expecting this at age 3- is this normal for this age group? ramis- some people work for a living so that they can provide for their children... you must not know about that...
How do i deal with unsolicited parenting advice from a 16 year old only child? No siblings no children....thinks my child is a spoiled brat because my child throws fits(which we are currently working on...but is hard to keep in tact when they are approaching the terrible twos) this teen seems to be soo diluted that they think they were an angel when they were younger..which i very clearly remember was NOT the case....this teen has their parents do everythign for them, no chores, no job and not a straight a student but because this teen doest run away or do drugs is considered angelic even though they mouth off to their parents and are truely distrespectful and sometime ungrateful
Need parenting advice..? It seems I blow up at my kids just all of a sudden. I'm usually calm but sometimes something dumb just makes me snap and lose my temper. I hate yelling and I find myself being just like how my dad was to us. I total jerk. So, I'm aware of the problem how do I calm down when something bothers me?? Thanks in advance? I have seen the dr. I'm in normal range on things.. so nothing out of balance. It's my personality unfortunatly. I've improved since I was younger but I still flip out over little things at times. My boys are 15 months and 5 years and honestly they both are really good mellow children (like there father lol) Anyways, my husband is calm so I'm trying to be more like him. I'm just home all day with them. No excuses for my behavior, but I do like the walking away and breathing deep.. great advice!!
Need parenting advice from parents of teens...? My oldest son is 16, and he has always been a really good kid. Lately he has started running around with a boy who I don't approve of - they are getting in minor trouble with the law, fighting, etc. He's also been running around with a girl who I know is not a virgin, her mom pays for her motel rooms and gets her condoms and beer. I know if I forbid these relationships he will sneak around. How can I pursuade him that these kids are not the best choice without damaging our relationship? His dad says I need to let him learn on his own and make his own decisions. I'm just not ready to let go just yet. Is there anything I can do?
Parenting advice... for a "widowed" father? My dad called me today for help with my younger two sisters. (i'm 20 and married) they are almost 11 and 14. my mother died from cancer 4 years ago (as of jan 2) and he is having some problems. see, the 14 yr old tends to assume the mommy position, and is also responsible for more household things than the 11 year old. by more, i mean 90%. my dad is feeling really bad.. he doesn't know what to do. i gave him some ideas on evening out the chore load, that he approved of, but i need some brainstorming here: 1. how can he make the 14 yr old feel more appreciated? 2. how can he even out the chore load? 3. how can he discourage the 14 yr old from trying to fulfill the "mommy" role 4. how can he improve the two sisters relationships? the older of the two tends to have some resentment issues toward the younger and is very mean 5. how can he continue to help them grieve? (aside from counseling) 6. what other ideas do you have, in general.. thanks so much for your input maybe i should mention.. i can't help out much.. they live in kentucky and i live in utah...
Parenting Advice Consequences? my daughter 11 years old, 5th grade has now been caught twice passing notes in class. Notes and drawings seem to be about a boy. Love doodle hearts and smiley faces etc on notes. All seems innocent, but my concern is, she doing this in class time and she really needs to study. I have tried to tell her anything in writing is permanet and sticks with you. Punishemnt I have taken her I pod, her game boy , no tv well no anything. Help
parenting advice 6 month old wont stop crying? ok my son is six and a half moth old, i know it sounds terrible but he is a little brat. ( I know how can you call a baby that young a brat) thats just how i feel, he is so good for his dad and everyone else but like a little antichrrist with me he cries if you dont prop him up at the precise level he wants, if his milk is not at his desired temperature( it not like i give it too hot or cold) he cries if he wants to be held ( which is constantly) he cries when i even try to straighten my hair. he cried when i was even typing this but as soon as my other son came in room the tears stopped immediately. hes waking up at nigt just to have one or 2 ounce sups and a cuddle and going back to bed and waking just for his soother. For example the other day i was doing my hair he was wasked fed clean etc. and he was crying because i would not pick him up, my mum pushed him into her sitting room and he was fine as soon as she left and pushed him back into me he started crying. what do i do?
Parenting Advice and Educating? Summer begins tomorrow. I have two boys 11, 7 and a girl 3 1/2. We intend to have FUN this Summer for sure, but I want to get into a ruitine (especially the younger two) of keeping them sharp with dayly assignments etc. My 3 yr old is quite smart, but is having a little trouble with numbers, spelling and colors. These are genius kids we're talking about. My biggest obsticle is nailing them down for an hour or two for 'school time'. I am not much of a teacher in the traditional sense. Any Suggestions? BusyMom, I think youre a twit. This is not at all what I was asking. Please take your paranoid, self-indulgent agenda elsewhere. BusyMom II, my social skills are just fine. My question was how I could best achieve keeping their minds sharp until they return to their quite respectable public school. You used this question as an opportunity to push your "homeschooling" agenda knowing full well that this was not at all what was being querried upon.
Parenting advice needed! Please help!? I'm planning my daughter's birthday party (she's 6), but am in a dilemma as to what to do about one of her friends. This girl is a nightmare - when she comes round she won't eat what you give her, she moans about everything, is an attention seeker AND she's a regular little liar and manipulator. Now, this girl is a good friend of my girl's, so I really don't want to deprive my girl of her choice of party people. However, I don't want an afternoon ruined because of the hideous drama queen antics. So what do I do? Do I: a) invite the girl anyway, and hope for the best (i.e. she doesn't come or she actually behaves herself, or b) don't invite her (secretly hoping that she'll learn a lesson over this) or c) something else? It's no use talking to the girl's mother about this - she knows about it and yet does nothing about it (it's been going on for a while). Recently we had a big argument about it, so this is another reason why I'm unsure. Don't want another barrage of abuse from her! OK, I can't help who she hangs round with at school, so a bit of a daft answer there. Needless to say, after recent incidents she will not be coming round to play again out of school hours! My daughter knows my feelings about her and knows what she's like, but I don't want to hurt her feelings by banning this girl, or making things unpleasant for her in the playground because of it. Secondly, I can't afford to do the theatre/entertainer thing, it's a party at home with art activities... besides, it's where I keep the Naughty Step ;-)
Parenting Advice, PLEASE? my children are very good and well behaved, but like all kids, can be bad sometimes. when i was a kid, my sisters and brothers and i got snapped w/ my faters belt and we are all making very nice lives for ourselves. i do not believe in the belt, but is hand-spanking ok?? plzz answer me!
NEED PARENTING ADVICE!!!? MY SON IS 13 MONTHS OLD, WHEN SHOULD I START LETTING HIM SPOON FEED HIMSELF? HOW WILL I KNOW THAT HE IS GETTING ENOUGH TO EAT?
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