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Parenting???? WOW i just read a article that gave info on parenting and discipline, apparently negitive reinforcement ect, is demeaning to children, upsets them and kurbs their creativity! wtf??? so now parents are to be their childs friends rather than parents i can see it now "i don't discipline because it might hurt their feelings" but on the up side prisons are proving to be nice places! Anyone elses thoughts on todays parenting???? sorry for the rant

How do you make parenting decisions with your significant other? I'm just curious how other people do this or if there is even a decision at all. My husband and I have two totally different ideas of parenting but somehow we do pretty good together through compromise and strategy. So, how do you make parenting decisions? Does one person do the majority of the parenting? Do you even discuss parenting with your significant? I'm just curious! Thanks! One more question--are your kids involved in parenting decisions?

Do you think the majority of parents take parenting seriously? I'm not talking about you personally. I'm talking about parents in general as a whole. Do you think parents (even when their children are at a young age) practice foresight? Do you think parents really take that responsibility to heart--almost like a job--and do their best? Now, I’m talking about you. How do you feel about parenting books in general? What is your main concern as a parent? Do you think the parents who do not take parenting seriously will some day have an effect on your own children? I’m just curious. I’ve been noticing more and more my own awareness of parenting. I’ve been really nervous (as I’m sure many parents are) about what I do now and the effects it will have on my children later. By all means, I’m confident about my parenting abilities and I’m always trying to improve but it’s so hard to figure out fact from fiction when there are so many “experts” out there. Do you choose to follow an "expert's" advice? If so, which one and why?

What are all of the different parenting methods available? I know we belabor the point here, sometimes... But, whenever I read people replies from people in the neverending spanking/not spanking debate, it seems like there are some who think the only choices for teaching our children are: Spanking Timeouts Taking away toys/priveleges 1-2-3 Magic That's it. Just straight pavlovian stimuli/response to train the children what to do and what not to do, until they're grown. Just wanted to get a list of other parenting methods that people use, to let people know that there are other choices that involve actually teaching your child to make good decisions without the contrived stimuli/response reward/punishment system. So, what are some of the other alternatives (besides, I guess, totally ignoring & neglecting your kids or abusing them). What are some parenting methods that you've used or seen working in real life, besides the above ones? Along with using facets of attachment parenting (http://www.attachmentparenting.com/ ), we, for the most part, use the methods described in the book Parenting with Love and Logic (http://www.loveandlogic.com/ ) which helps you guide your children to an understanding of how their choices affect themselves and others, using the natural consequences of their actions to help them really internalize the lesson and be able to apply it to other choices in their lives. It's worked pretty well, so far, on our natural kids. Didn't work too well on a niece who we fostered through her early teen years, but, as she had Reactive Attachment Disorder, I'm not sure what would have worked on her. Oh, and we'll use 1-2-3 magic and timeouts from time to time. Life is hectic & sometimes you just need a quick solution. When trying to create good habits, we'll go with a sticker chart. And, like Biz, we've found that sometimes 'natural consequences' aren't obvious enough, so we'll creatively enhance them a bit if needed :D

What is the best free online parenting class to take? I have decided to take an online parenting class. I was wondering what site would be the most effective. I don't have a credit card or a checking account so it needs to be one that is free. I have 3 kids between the ages of 5 and 11. Has anyone taken one that was effective? If so, I would like to know what site it was and some examples of how they work. It is not that I don't know how to be a parent, but that I am just not very effective and need to do something.

What are some great pregnancy and parenting books? I already have the “What to expect when you are expecting” series, what else was useful for you? What books on parenting have been worth buying for you? What about pregnancy books? Which ones could you not live without? My husband and I are first time parents and need some direction! Thanks!

Should parents be required to take a parenting class during the hospital stay when the baby is born? What benefits whould this have? I am writing a Thesis on getting a program started through the government requiring parents to have a parenting lecture or class during their hospital stay. Any comments are appreciated. Thanks!

What is the worst parenting advice you have ever received? I have been given a lot of parenting advice over the years and have even tried some of the suggestions. I have since learned to just trust my own instincts. What I want to know is what is the worst or craziest advice you've ever been given, and did you try it?

What is the weirdest parenting advice you have ever recived ? Ok so I really hate it when people come up to you and try to give you parenting tips and they have no idea what they are talking about. It doesn't matter if they are family, friends or strangers. So whats the most off the wall thing someone has told you? BLEACH OMG! that caller needs to be arrested and renered mute so that no one will ever listen to them again!

How many parents read parenting books before/during pregnancy? I have a cousin who has about 10 parenting books, all about a million pages long, and she read all of them! It never occurred to me to read parenting books. What about you? Did you read parenting books or go 100% by maternal instinct, or somewhere in the middle? My cousin got accidentally pregnant so I think she felt like she had no idea how to be a parent so read these books.

What would you do about your boyfriends inconsistant parenting skills? My boyfriend will tell his two girls to do something or there will be a new rule put forward then the next weekend, its like it never happened? What is the deal? It drives me crazy! I dont know how to approach this with out it sounding like i am critizing his parenting. ( i dont have any of my own ) That and I plainly dont understand why he does it. I know that this could potentionally lead into other issues !!??

What is your parenting philosophy when asked by adoption agencies? My husband and I are in the middle of adopting from Russia. We are asked what is are parenting philosophy. For those of you who have been through the process what did you write down.

How did you come about your parenting style? How did you come about your parenting style? Were you influenced by your own parents? Did you just test techniques to see what worked/didn't work?

How does a mother know if they are secure in their parenting skills? Does she have to have more than one child or can she know form one, what makes a mother secure in her parenting?

What is the best parenting book that you have read and why? My 4yr old is so defiant and nothing works, I'd like to read a good parenting book, anyone have any good ideas? I understand that 4 is a rebellious age, but my daughter is now refusing to sit in time out.

What is the best parenting book currently on the Market? Hi I am about to be mother for the fisrt time and will like to buy a book on parenting which do you think is the best?

What is the best attachment parenting book out there? Hi I want a good attachment parenting book but there are so many to choose from. Which one do you think is best? Thanks I know you can't learn to be a good parent from a book but i just want to read a few books on different parental styles just in case. Thanks for you opinion anyway.

What are some good books on parenting theories? Like on sleeping, discipline, and general parenting thoughts? I have a 1 1/2 yr old step-son who was born 3 months preemie and is developmentally handicapped. Plus I am expecting another.

What are the best websites regarding parenting and/or kids? I will be writing articles online for a kiddie magazine. I need references regarding, parenting, cartoons, kids, rearing kids, and the like. All suggestions are highly appreciated.

How would you rate your parenting skills? On a scale of 1-10 (1 being the lowest) how would you rate your parenting skills? Do you parent your children the way you were parented?

What do you think about teen pregnancy and parenting? I am a teen mother writing a paper for my college English class about the contriverasial issues of teen pregnancy and parenting. I understand that people have different point of views about the situation. If you could tell me if you agree or disagree and why that would be great.

Do people know the difference between an authorative parenting style and a authoratarian style? There was a question on here about authorative and some people answered it stating that the child would lack self esteem becuase they would never be in control with the authorative parenting style. It's actually the authoratarian style that would fall under not the authorative.

What is the most important thing to remember about parenting? I have an almost 8 month old baby girl and I would like to know what is most important in parenting :-)

Where is the best place online to get free parenting classes? I want to take free parenting classes because I have no money. Where is the best place online for that?

What are the pros and cons of the 4 parenting style? I was studying the pros and cons of the 4 parenting styles; permissive indulgent, permissive neglectful, authoritarian, and authoritative and was wondering what everyone thought about what the pros and cons would be for them? In particular what are some cons to authoritative, I couldn't seem to find any?

Why do people answer PARENTING questions if they are NOT a parent? If you are a parent, or an experienced child-care provider that is one thing to share your opinion. You have something to offer. I'm just trying to get a truthful answer, not some silly comment. If you are not a parent, is your answer based on your observations? What is your purpose for answering a parenting question? Is it for research purposes? I appreciate the honest answers given. I was simply curious-that's all. Just because I have driven a car for 17 years does not make me feel qualified to answer mechanical questions. Again, thank you to those who answered my question without being a smart-alec.

If parenting were a professional job, what would be your personal mission statement? I just thought it would be neat to see other parents' goals in parenting. I feel we all have very similar veiws [especially love] but would love to know what deeper goals you have

What are some good reference sites for Attachment Parenting? I'm looking for a site that provides plenty of information about Attachment Parenting. Not just the 7 B's. But much more about what Attachment Parents do and believe in.

Where can I find free parenting classes in Middlesex NJ area? I am looking to attend a "refresher" parenting class for my 8 day old newborn (my second child, his first) in the central NJ location. I would perfer to attend the class in person, but if anyone knows information about online classes I would appreciate that too. I want to know if online classes offer a certificate of completion. (He and I live in separately so I want to be sure he finishes the class) I'd appreciate any information you could give. Thanks!

What do you do about parenting disagreements? How do you and your parenting partner resolve disagreements about how to discipline, or what a rule or policy should be? In particular, what do you do when you find you disagree in front of your child(ren)? (The question or problem had never come up before and you have to solve it right then and there.)

Can living with my girlfriend effect the outcome of my motion to change parenting time? I am currently living with my fiance. I'm wanting to enter a motion to change parenting time. Will living with another woman w/out being married effect the outcome? My child's mother obviously doesn't like her, but there have been no major problems or fist-fights between the two of them. Further more the interaction they have infront of my child is always civil and cordial.

What is your read on the statement "Consider adoption, a loving alternative to parenting."? I happened across a WEB site for an adoption agency that seemed reasonable until came across this statement on the information page for pregnant women considering adoption: "Consider adoption, a loving alternative to parenting." I have seen adoption advertised as a loving alternative to abortion but I have never seen it advertised as a loving alternative to parenting. Has anyone else seen this before? What is your take on this? Is parenting a non-loving option?

What do you think is your best parenting attribute? What do you feel is your best attribute when it comes to parenting and caring for your children? While we're at it - What do you think is your worse attribute as well. :)

How do I go about establishing a legal parenting plan? My and I have 2 children and things were going okay until recently and it has occured to me that we need a very detailed parenting plan that we are legally obligated to follow. Does it cost money to have an arbiter help us with the matter? Who do I talk to, what do I do? I need help ASAP :-( He is my ex boyfriend, we were neer married :-) The oldest is not his biological child but I am going to treat it as shs is, regardless of legal advantage to my side, because he has been taking care of her for 5 years.

Specifics on establishing a parenting plan in Washington state? My 16 year old has never had a parenting plan as we were divorced before he was born. The child support office said I will have to establish a parenting plan to address his post high school support issues. He has plans to attend college and will graduate from HS in 2011. Does anyone know if I have to hire a lawyer for this, as I don't have much money. Anyone have any information on this?

Do you think that proper parenting means to give and do everything for your children? Do you feel the need to teach, train and discipline your children? If so how do you do it? Did you learn your parenting style from our own parents or from some other source?

When is it a good time to start parenting classes, yoga etc.? I havent gone to the doctors yet because i am away at school so im waiting till i go home to start appts ( thats what planned parenthood recommended because of the different county rules) Schools almost done in less then a month, but My last period was exactly two months ago (02.19.08) Well my question is when is it a good time to start yoga, swimming, parenting classes, etc?

I am looking for a cirrculum for pregnant and parenting teen age moms. I would like to start a program? Is there a cirrculum out there for pregnant and parenting teens.

What are your thoughts on Attachment Parenting? I am a very commited attachment parent. I love raising my son with this parenting style. I have found that he is so much more pleasant. However, I have two neighbors who frown when I pick my baby up when he cries. I can't stand it. One of them told me that my baby is completely spoiled (he's only 6 months old). I am just wondering if there are other mothers out there who have to deal with others and their opinions. Its frustrating!

What would u like to see in a parenting magazine? i work with a parenting magazine and i would like to know what do you guys love to read or wish to see in parenting magazines other than the usual stuff that is always there currently. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Can a relationship work with 2 people that have different parenting styles? I have been with my girlfriend since her child was 2 years old. When I met her she was very passive when it came to discipline. Her child is 6 now and things still seems out of hand. We have different parenting styles and we often bump heads. My GF sees her child do things that are inappropriate and turns the other cheek. She likes to chuck up her child's actions as being age appropriate but I beg to differ. I am the type of parent that will love my child to death but put them in check or give them a spanking if they need one. This causes us to have arguments and I just let her do things her way because that is her child. But then I feel like she has accepted me into her and child's life. Shouldn't that count for somethng although I'm not the biological parent? My GF often gets frustrated with her child because they are rude and rebelling and I grow frustrated with the both of them. I can't stand the woman I'm in luv with to be disrepected by her child. How can we be a team?

Any tips on parenting a newborn that you wish you had known ahead of time? I'm about 2 weeks or less away from having my first baby and I'm scared to death that I'm going to mess up...I know that there are natural instincts I will have but I'm sure there are things I should know ahead of time...Do any of you have any tips for me when parenting my new baby that maybe you wish you would have known ahead of time that you would like to share with us....Thanks!!! :)

How long does parenting information remain current? The reason I ask is that I've been collecting parenting books and magazines ever since I got married, hoping that soon we'd have a baby. Well, I'm still waiting for my dream to come true so I've been faithfully holding on to them. But now, I'm wondering if they need to be tossed. Of course I know that the internet is full of resources and I try to stay current, even learning all about elimination communication and things like that, but sometimes it's just nice to have things in print. My question is, being that my printed material doesn't have the latest parenting info, is it of any value? I know I have to have the very latest information on things like safety, but what other types of info go out of date quickly? I guess another way to ask is this...moms - what's the oldest parenting material you've felt comfortable using?

How do you blend families when you and your partner have very different parenting styles? Our parenting styles are differnt..he is WAY to permissive and layed back about the things his children do ie listening to inappropriate music or being disrespectful. When it comes to my children (who are not perfect) he is quick to judge and point fingers. I am more strict and structured than he is and I'm trying to convince him to go to parenting classes....he is stand-offish about it. How do we handle this?

How do you stay current on the latest scientific research on parenting and child development? I considered subscribing to _Child Development_, a scholarly journal that publishes a lot of the leading research articles on parenting and child outcomes, but it's subscription fee is horrendous. (Set for university libraries, not parents, I guess.) Most magazines seem to give very short shrift to research. They interview so-called experts for ideas from time to time, but you can tell that these folks are rarely research scientists. So have any of you found any good methods of doing this?

Where do you buy one of those fake babies you get in parenting class? I am trying to teach a friend a lesson about parenting and wanted to buy one of those fake babies that cry and need to be fed. If anyone has any ideas that would be great!

Do you know of any good Parenting Social networking sites? I have three children uinder six and am looking to create a good breadth of support for myself and my wife. I'm looking for any good "social network" parenting site which others may know of? Thanks!

Where can I find information about dismissive (neglectful) parenting style? I have a pyschology project due and I need to find substantial information about dismissive parenting style. All I can find so far is about three sentences worth of info all saying basically the same thing: Dismissive parents have low limits and low love. I need more substance. Things like pyschological effects (short and long term), examples, etc.

What do you find to be the hardest part about parenting? I have read/heard over and over again that parenting is so hard. What do you think the hardest part about it is? And if you're so inclined, what do you think the best part about being a parent is? :)

How can you help with the parenting of baby hamsters? What can you do to help mother hamsters with parenting their young?

What would you say to a friend who constantly critisizes your parenting, but does an awful job herself? A 'friend' of mine constantly critisizes my parenting choices, from discipline to what my kids wear, plus makes smart comments all the time if my house is messy, or I'm wearing grubbies. Her house is constantly filthy, and she's usually dressed up because someone else is watching her kids for her! What can I say to make a point but not be rude?

Is relocating out of state without altering a court ordered parenting plan contempt of court? Ex and I shared custody amicably for 8 years in washington with a legal parenting plan. He decided to move to california for a lifestyle change. Our parenting plan says he has the boys 3 nights a week. He does not want to change the parenting plan to reflect the new situation. Is this technically contempt of court?

Should parents be required to take a parenting class during the hospital stay when the baby is born? What benefits whould this have? I am writing a Thesis on getting a program started through the government requiring parents to have a parenting lecture or class during their hospital stay. Any comments are appreciated. Thanks!

Can a father who gives the mother full custody of a child get shared parenting later down the road? This man gave his ex wife, full custody of their child. And has scheduled supervised visitations. This man, does not even come to visitation to see his child. He has missed 62 visitations just since Jan. 2006. Is there a way to revoke his visitation rights? If he would ever take her back for shared parenting, could he get it? This man has severe alcohol and drug abuse issues, but is there a prove it? My friend is worried sick about this. She is trying to be the best possible mother there is, going back to college to get a nursing degree, and spend as much possible time with her child. Her home, is the most stable environment for the child. Her ex husband called last tuesday wanting to sign away his rights. Is there a way to do that if she is not getting remarried?

Parenting!? Does anyone know where I can order a Parenting/Baby Book online...FREE?

parenting? if a mother and father is not married.and they have a child together and the mother yakes the child and skips the country without telling the father is that kidnapping? how can it not be concidered kidnapping?how can it be kidnapping? kidnapping is when someone who isn't the parent takes the kid. if it is your child and you were never married to the person she took her from england to spain it may not be the same as in USA.

Parenting? I'm a 19 year old girl, who just moved back home from college for about a month. As a teenager i always argued with my parents, because they never backed up any of their decisions (i personally think that their decisions were based purely on emotions...as my dad has depression and my mom is bipolar). anywho, my mom and i were watching nanny 911 and she was talking about one of the girls, and how she always negotiated, and how the mom needed to just lay down the law. she then applied it to me, and told me i need to stop negotiating, even though we haven't had a "spat" while i've been home. do you think thats legit, even though i'm 19 and moving out in a month?

Parenting.? Why does it say when I enter the section "drat, No questions here." How is that possible?

parenting!!!!!? im 15 got a 2 year old son who has started biting and and im 7 months pregnant wit my daughter and he trys to bite my stomiche and say no want it and idk how to make him understadn no bite but if u have nothin good to say or too help me out dont bother writng anythin at all im not in the mood.

parenting? i need help i'm not sure what to do. some one i know never lets her child do anything. he his a 1year and a half. she bought him a swing set and build a sandbox for him but she wont let him play with them because "he'll get drity" as she puts it. he can barley speak english and she's bringing him to classes to learn to speak spanish. no one in her family knows spanish including her. she's only doing it because her nighbors kid is about 6months older than her son and he can count to 15in spanish and she's jelous. what can i do to make her understand that not letting him play and get dirty is wrong? i think that the child is going to grow up and hate her because of this and i don't want that to happen. so please tell me if you have any ideas.

parenting? if a father and mother divorces ad they both share custody of a child. but the mother leaves and takes the child with out the father knowing and no longer has contact with the father is that kidnapping?if she skips the country with the child. but you don't live in america. what if she takes the child from england to spain!!!!!!

"Parenting"? Will people STOP using this barbarism! PARENTHOOD, PARENTAL & FOSTERING are more than adequate! Thank-you Tom K. I think that we ought to start a campaign! AuntTater.......There is no hope for you, I'm afraid.

parenting.? does anyone want to give some good tips to a guy that is seeing someone with a nine month old baby?

Conflicting parenting styles, kids backtalking/disrespecting step-parent even w/bio. parent present = DIVORCE? Yes I know couples fight over parenting styles, limit setting, out of control, disrespect step-kids (minor and adult). But is it outrageous or crazy for a couple to divorce because of these problems? Like if a couple has been reasonably happy with no kids for 10 yrs then 7 months after getting custody of 4 of the bio parent's kids it becomes clear that they are all rude and respectful to the stepparent, the bio parent's style of parenting is basically to let them do as they please (examples: teen kids backtalk and disrespect step parent daily, 20 yr old makes $250 a week in a job but bio parent refuses to have him pay any bills in home or even buy his own food). Bio parent very rarely corrects them for disrespect to the stepparent, etc. Would it be considered unheard of or silly for the step-parent to leave this 10yr relationship and seek divorce due mostly to these problems or is this a common reason for divorce?

Can you accuratly judge someones parenting skills,based on a few opinions you disagree with? I have only been a member of Yahoo Answers for about 8 months, but I have noticed how many people take parenting choices that other parents make, and determine that those choices make them a bad parent. This is something I have never come across, until I came upon Y!A. I have had other parents call me a bad mom or stepmom simply because they don't happen to agree with me on certain things. I have also seen it said to other parents. A parent says they spank their kid: their a bad parent. They leave their kid in daycare: their a bad parent. They don't get along with their stepkids: its their fault and their a bad parent. Where is it said that just because another parent doesn't share your views on parenting, that they bad parents? Or that you are better than them? There are 1000's of different views on parenting, and just because someones are not the same as yours, doesn't make them a bad parent, it simply means they don't share your views. Why do some parents think they are experts? I don't mean the people who give advice that is not what the asker was hoping to hear or people who happen to disagree with the asker. I mean the people who take the fact that they happen to disagree with the things that another parent says, and then instead of giving helpful, even if it disagrees with the other parent, advice, they start insulting the other parent: calling them a bad parent, telling they don't deserve to have kids, calling them names, making unfair and in-accurate assumptions about them. How can it be, that just because another parent doesn't share your parenting views, that makes them an over all bad parent and you a much better parent?

Why do parents put so much into methods of parenting instead of just being the best parents they can be? Like the parents who worry about what they have to do to be "Attachment Parents" or using the ferber method, or any other kind of method? Why not just focus on taking good care of the baby and not relying so much on what some book says to do? Just think about parents from 60+ years ago...there weren't books telling them what they HAD to do to be good parents, or telling them what NOT to do. I just think it's rediculous. Be a good parent..make sure your baby is happy, healthy, well fed, clean, and have a good time with your baby...play with them and such. So many people are stressing out over following these rules set by different parenting methods and not just enjoying their children. I am saying why not just do what you like to. I mean, I love my son...he sleeps in his own crib...in his own room, but when he needs to sleep with me or won't sleep in his crib then he does, I don't let him cry all the time, but I don't pick him up right off the bat when he starts fussing, he's bottle fed not breast (by his choice not mine). That doesn't really seem to follow any of the methods, does it? And yes, I was asking for other people's opinions...trying to see why people chose to use these methods and why other people agree with my opinion. I am not saying that people shouldn't ask others for advice about what to do with their kids, but I am just saying that people shouldn't just follow one set of rules. Take aspects from everything and most of all follow your instincts, they won't let you go wrong...that's why they are there. But don't put all of your faith into one source. That's all I'm saying.

Parenting Licenses, Anyone? We have to pass a test to drive a car. Statistically, more societal damage is caused by bad parenting than bad driving. When are we going to give children the priority that they deserve, and require parenting licenses for people to leave a hospital with a baby? Why not just a simple requirement of a violent-criminal-history clearance and a parenting class completion, and more requirements (home visits, facilitators) as "risk factors" incresase? Insurance companies rate us on statistics and risk factors. Why can't we rate parents on the same, and require that the riskier ones have more stringent requirements to meet? Children are not pets or property. It should not be considered anyone's "right" to care for a child. Adoptions and foster parenting impose MAJOR requirements, so why not natural parenting? Hospitals already employ Social Workers. Just like the nurse walks to yur car to make sure you have a carseat, the hospital SW would verify that you are cleared to take a baby home. My point is: Why not *change* the law so that you have to "prove" yourself minimally-qualified to care for a child? Actually, I'm fairly conservative with my politics (except for gay rights and abortion). Saying that it's someone else's problem is irresponsible and defeatist. Bad parenting has become epidemic; look around! Red some of the advice and questions, here alone. Why I care: because I'm raising three children in this mess and it's very very sad. Also, the babies now are going to be caring for us later. If they're suffering neglect, lack of values and character . . . that's kind of a no-brainer.

Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents? Step parents: how much of a role do you play in parenting your step children? Bio parents: how much of a role do you think is appropriate for step parents? Does it depend on the relationship? Cirumstances? Any exceptions? Why? Just wondering what other people do...I'm kind of bored, my boss made me come in today.

Bad parenting!!? Why are parents so dumb about parenting? I mean some parents should not be parents, some parents can be taught by their kids. Discipline and love are the biggest things in parenting, do you agree?

Parenting Pet peeves.? UGG Ok Parents Drive me mad how can parents raise children in todays world to be racist, judgemental, selfish and all around just bad people? I mean come aren't we as parents suppsoed to want whats best for our kids teach them better and to be more open mined than what we were growing up. It is our obglation to do this the world they are growing up in has no room for these things. Come parents wake up rasing you children this way is only going to hurt them later in life not the people you are teaching them to hate. Times are changing just think about that. Is there any one who agrees with me or has there own parenting pet peeves? I would like to hope that is not true that there will always be racism and such. I mean my farther was to a degree but he tried not to pass it off on to his kids and I am not that way at all I do not raise my kids to be that way. Those of us parents how are trying to make a difference We all deserve a pat on the back and parenting award.

What kind of parenting style do you use and why? *Indulgent parents (also referred to as "permissive" or "nondirective") "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behavior, allow considerable self-regulation, and avoid confrontation" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 62 *Authoritarian parents are highly demanding and directive, but not responsive. "They are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 62). These parents provide well-ordered and structured environments with clearly stated rules *Authoritative parents are both demanding and responsive. "They monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative" (Baumrind, 1991, p. 62). *Uninvolved parents are low in both responsiveness and demandingness. In extreme cases, this parenting style might encompass both rejecting–neglecting and neglectful parents, although most parents of this type fall within the normal range. http://www.athealth.com/Practitioner/ceduc/parentingstyles.html RubiesNRubies- I'm a new parent of a 7 month old so I can't say in depth at this point, but I lean toward authoritarian. RubiesNRubies- I'm a new parent of a 7 month old so I can't say in depth at this point, but I lean toward authoritarian. RubiesNRubies- I'm a new parent of a 7 month old so I can't say in depth at this point, but I lean toward authoritarian.

Bad parenting skills, or something serious? I am seriously worried about my BFF. Her parents always go out to dinner together she always eats alone. I know talking to my parents at dinner every night helps me. She is infact at an average weight, almost boarder line underweight, yet her family is constantly telling her how fat she is and she is starting to not eat all the lunch she brings or participate in swapping food with us (we eat food out of each other's lunches sometimes.. its fun). Her parents don't appreciate her acheivements. She won 3 awards at the award ceremony and her parents didn't come and I felt bad bc I didn't win an award but my parents were there anyways. Once her mom and dad started yelling at her because they couldn't find her grandmother's prized vase and they were saying she broke it and she was insisting she didn't. they took all of her money to "make up for it" and she was grounded but they found it a week later where her mom put it for decoration. Is this just bad parenting or something else? It's many things like this and her parents are constantly fighting with each other about her and I don't want her to be hurting. The past week she seemed to be unfocused and sad. I personally think they are selfish since they refuse to take her to soccer practice and won't let me drive her since they won't drive me and want to be fair. THen at the games they get mad bc she doesn't play and get mad at her when she says that the coach said it's because she didn't come to practice. is this at all bad parenting and I am concerned for no reason? I want to help her!

where is parenting? why in the world parents dont realize that their kids be it a gurl or boy needs lots of care and importance and sharing...feeding and buying things is what all parents do and have to...but why dont parents sit up and talk and show them what is life?and what is good and bad?because of their ignorance in this part we find tons of guys and gurls disturbed in life and perhaps unaware of what to do in life......and suffer....such parents should never birth to a child at all....they simply give birth to a child.....and always scold it for each and everything and even fight among themselves in front of that child....little they realize how bad it will affect the mentality of a kid??and moreover a kid brought up this situation is sure to be upset and depressed .....and get into troubles experimenting his own way of life.....Each and every girls or guys life depends of how their parents were and all......a law need to be setup to punish poor parenting.....cozzz life starts from home.....

shared parenting? My son is 11yrs. old. We have been living w/a shared parenting plan for about 9yrs. His father is married and his wife has alot of oppinions about what we the parents are doing or planning to do with our child. My question is "how do we come to an agreement or understanding that she really has no say so in the situation?" At this time and for a long time my son has wanted to live in my home but his father and stepmother (mainly stepmother) are standing in the way. My next question is what do you all think my next step should be? The shared parenting thing has never really worked for us because in our plan extracurricular activites override any visitation with the other parent. So yes of-course he plays a sport every season(basketball,football,softball,. Just looking for some words of wisdom and encouragement. I was told that when children reach a certain maturity level or the age of 12 they can decide which parent they want to live with, is this true?

Attachment Parenting any parents out there? Any other parents choosing to follow the attchemnt parenting route? No spanking...baby wearing...orgainc natural foods...no tv or very limited...homeschooling...not leaving your baby/child at daycare or strangers...extended breastfeeding(2 years) My question is do you ever get sick of other parents and family member questioning teh creadibilty of attachemnt paretning to the point that is way past annoying? I mean in the sense that it is sad that so many other parents buy into the "cry it out" and into formula rather than breastfeeding for the reason that breasfeeding is far to much work....that attached children "spoil" them.... The only way a child gets "spoiled" is if they are not loved enough, if you dont spend enough time with them and if you take away their natural abilites in excahnge for the modern day babysitter...tv... anyone else out there had enough? i guess what i was asking wasnt being heard but thats ok its yahoo answers what do you expect? of course raise your child the way you want thats not the point of this question... is there anyother paretns that hear alot from others about how pampering you child is bad for them? i think its very nessissary to give your parenting style a name hence attachment parenting

Attachment parenting/babywearing? I have been reading about attachment parenting and I am confused. It says that you should hold your baby all the time, and play with them and talk to them. Well obviously! I thought thats what all parents did? What do normal parents do then, just leave their baby in a cot all day? This is a serious question I want to know because I don't ahve experience of seeing mothers and babies together I only have my own experience to go by and holding and talking to my babies all the time is what came naturally. If this 'attachment parenting' is something only a minority of parents practice then what do the majority do? I know there is a lot more to attachment parenting its just that they say you should hold your baby all the time in a way that implies that most mothers don't do that. I just wanted to know if that was true or not I am talknig mostly about young babies obviously if a baby is crawling aor walking you would not carry them all the time

I can teach both parenting classes and in-home business classes but should I, one after the other, a 2 for 1? I am confident and excited in teaching both I just have not considered doing them back to back yet (I am new at developing in-home bussinesses and I'm just trying to get started). I have been a parenting counselor for 5 years. They are both 1 hour each for a total of two hours. Classes meet once a week for 12 weeks with options for making up missed classes. Class "membership" is $120.00 per month for each class; for 1 or 2 parents. Parents can sign up for either the parent class or in-home business class. They do not have to take both. However,and by my own design, if they sign up for just the in-home business class," the parenting classes are free". Classes are two unrelated subjects that answer two very important issues of family life. Classes will be in a local classroom environment(s) or in homes. Also, parents in the parenting class are encouraged to invite an additional couple or single parent to attend free with them. What are my chances of success?

Do you think that parenting styles directly contribute to adolescent delinquency? I am doing a research paper on the relationship between parenting and adolescent delinquency (teenage range). I was hoping that my fellow opinionated yahoo-ers would have things to say about it. By parenting styles I mean anything, like parents always around, parents never around, tough love, parents that are or were delinquent themselves, and any other way that you would think of parenting... Is there a direct relationship between that and teenagers becoming criminals, doing drugs, stealing, breaking any laws, getting into a lot of fights, any delinquent behavior, what do you think? Do you have any personal stories or experiences to share? Any age, with kids or without kids, I would like your opinion, you don’t have to have a kid to know about parenting, you just need to have a parent... And if you would please include your age ... (and gender if it isn’t obvious already) this would help tremendously!!!! Thanks a lot!!!

a questiong about parenting plan? just recently i was the petitioner for an order for an interim parenting plan till the big court date, i got what i wanted but the judge put in something that i don't quite under stand. "If the parent who has parent/child time is required to be away for more than 4 hours, that parent shall contact the other parent and offer parent/child contact with ashton during the time the residential parent is away" my son's mom says due to this I MUST have her watch my son while i go to work instead of letting my girlfriend (whom i live with AND haveing a little girl together (due on the 29th!!!!! :) )) or family watch him. is this true??? or is this just her throwing another fit over nothing. I think its just in case i need daycare or something i can go to his mother or not it also says shall contact so yea.... anyways lemme know. too late to hit the law library so gotta wait well the ting is i'm wondering is, i work a full time job and son lives mostly with me all of his life. we moved to weekly visit with his mother now but i don't see the point. my girlfriend is basicly a stay at home mom right now being 9 months pregnant right now so why can't i just leave my son at home when i go off to work?

are there parents out there that wish that they could go back and change all the bad parenting? I have 6 girls & 2 Boys some say that I was a good parent that ha to many children to raise by myself and that there were time when I would talk horrible to them but they are glade that I am their mom and then there some of my children that daily throw my bad parenting in my face... If it was not for my faith in my forgiveness from Jehovah God... don't ask why I had so many children they are here and suffering from bad parenting.. I am watching them pass on this bad parenting to their children so I for one do not blame the system for the condition of children I blame bad parenting... I have 4 of my children that we look at each other with respect and love for some reason these 4 children say that yes i was bad but they see that we have over come a lot and we need to thank god for each other and we have gotten thru together this does not help the other 4 children.. :Yes I did have too many children but they are here and they can't be put back I love my children no matter what

Are there parenting groups for parents of older children? Most of the parenting groups I see are for parents of preschool aged children. There are a few school-run groups for parents of elementary school children, but once the kids hit middle/junior high school parental support seems to disappear. I need more peer help now than I ever did when my kids were toddlers. I would *love* to meet up with parents of other pre-teens and teenagers to compare notes and get advice, but these things don't seem to exist. There is only the PTA and stuff like that where the focus is totally different and highly politicized. Are there parenting groups out there that I'm missing, or do they not exist, and why?

I hate parenting..does anyone else feel the same? Need help.? I have so many issues around parenting that it leaves me to feel like a horrible parent on most days. I don't beat my kids or call them names but I am a single mother and I find myself feeling resentful at being a mother on most days. The logical side of my brain says "They are just kids" but the other side says: WTF? this is NOT joyous at ALL!!!! I was adopted as a child and I know this has had a huge impact on my life/parenting, even though I was reunited with my birthmother 2 years ago. How do i find a way to stop hating being a parent. I resent their fathers , I resent them. I hate my life as a parent most of the time and I feel guilty for feeling this way!! I look back on the circumstances of their conception and think "what was I thinking???" I have 2 daughters and I love them I just don't know if I have what it takes anymore. The older I get the more I hate parenting..I need help. Does/has anyone ever felt this way?? I feel alone. The advice has been good and on point. I think I need to speak with someone as I have alot of anger towards their fathers. I feel alone in handling the tasks of running a household and I feel like I give give give but don't have a way to replenish the energy.

Homosexual Parenting - thoughts,facts,info,opinions? I have to write an 8 page paper about Homosexual Parenting. I'm going to talk about the differences between gay parenting and straight parenting as well as africation american gay parenting vs. caucasion gay parenting. I am praying that someone can give me any kind of information, thoughts, experiences, or opinions on this topic!!!! Thank you!

Parenting Manuel?? Everything we buy now days comes with a manuel! Even simple things are explaned in these manuels. but the most important job in the world, being a parent, has no manuel! The hospital tells you how to feed your baby, how to bathe it and that's all! No one tells you the simple little things that some people take for common sence!There are some really stupid people that have babies!How bout the couple near me that left and went to the movies while their baby was at home because their baby slept through the night! What the *bleep* were they thinking!Another couple made their son sleep in the tub because he wet the bed!Who here thinks that someone should write a parenting manuel for everyone to take home from the hospital?What about a manditory class for first time parents, they would have to take it before they leave the hospital, or in the case of a home birth, before the delivery?Should everyone be a licensed parent?You have to have a license to drive a car, but any dummy can have a baby Ok, then explain why people do stupid Stuff to their kids ie, putting them in the microwave, taking them outiside in nothing but a diaper when there is snow on the ground? no, i can't spell, it's five in the morning and I'm really tired! But thanks for pointing that out!

Parenting Style? I trying to do some research on the how the number of children a couple has effects their parenting style. For instance a couple with 2 children compared to a couple with 7 children. For some reason I cannot seem to find any research articles relating parenting styles to the number of children. If anybody has some info on this topic please post it. Also if there are any parents out there, could you describe how you would change your parenting style if you had more or less kids than you currently have.

parenting tips for parents with teens? hey. im working on a magazine and and theres a section on parenting tips. do you have any tips that i can use.please put your age,and if you are a teen, parent, or non-parent

What is the Purpose of Parenting? In other words, what is the goal of parenting? What are we, as parents, trying to accomplish? Is it simply to provide the essentials? Is it to raise healthy productive citizens? Or is it to bring joy and happiness to our children? I don't have an answer but I would very much like to hear you take on this question. Obviously this assumes an intention to perform active parenting skills however as I have been reflecting on this important question recently it has occurred to me that many parents appear to perform their parenting duties more out of default than intention. In reflecting what it is I am trying to accomplish by being a parent I hope to better focus on what efforts and activities I need to be engaging in. I would welcome input first from other parents and also from young adults that are not parents themselves but have an opinion on this topic. For my benefit, please give me an idea of how old you are and whether or not you have children. Thank you in advance.

Parenting Style? I trying to do some research on the how the number of children a couple has effects their parenting style. For instance a couple with 2 children compared to a couple with 7 children. For some reason I cannot seem to find any research articles relating parenting styles to the number of children. If anybody has some info on this topic please post it. Also if there are any parents out there, could you describe how you would change your parenting style if you had more or less kids than you currently have.

Will society will ruin my parenting? I don't have children, yet. But I've been thinking about something for a while now. When I do have my first child, I plan to be the best mother possible to him or her. Me and my boyfriend talk about what kind of parents we want to be and discuss different parenting skills all the time. I realize it will ultimatley be up to our child to follow our guidance. I guess my question is no matter how perfect our parenting will be, won't society ruin all of our hard work? I mean, when our child starts school, won't the other kids who didn't have such great parents pass along their bad behavior and habits? As a parent what do you do to ensure only YOUR parenting stays etched in your childs brain and not someone else's lack of parenting? Thanks. Thanks for all your great answers. Sometimes I get scared and start to think that maybe having a child in this world isn't such a great idea. But hearing these words from you all reminds of of just how great it could be to be a mother. Lillypops, although I don't have children of my own yet - Some things are just common sense. Teaching your kids to treat their bodies like something of little importance is one the major things thats wrong with society! I can speak first hand cause I had a mom that did the same thing. She never took the time to teach me how to eat well and take care of myself cause she didn't know how. She suffers from diabetes and high cholesterol now because of her poor eating habits. Luckily, now as an adult, I've learned how to take care of my body on my own. In no way am I saying that being a parent is an easy task. I understand that it is probably the hardest job of all. And I hope that I will be the best parent that I can be to my kids.

My new family parenting program with 2 seperate but related classes.Will it work? I’m developing a family program using 2 separate but related family classes; 1. Parenting; and 2. Health and Wellness, (a MLM Co.) both are 1 hr. each. Classes meet once a week for 12 weeks & with family "money" and "time management" as important side issue(s) & topic(s). My business hours are 9am-9pm with 4 / three hr. session blocks of time during the day to accommodate most parents’ schedules. I am available 24/7/30 but my work week is Mo., Tu., Wed., & Thu., only. No classes will be provided by me during the 4th week of the month because of other related business issues that have to be attended to. The cost for both programs is $60.00 per mo. for 1or 2 individuals & $120.00 per mo. for families, a married couple, "man & wife", + 2 children. An after school "Fun & Skills" program with attached and attending parents is also included from 3-6pm daily. Parenting classes are free to parents who are building their family businesses. Also, once a month local camp outs are included.

Should parenting skills be a required class for all high school students? Be sure to offer some thoughtful reasons for your answer. If your answer is yes, then what are some of the things that you think should be taught in such a class? Since a lot of people might not have considered this idea, here is a brief argument in favor: Parenting is certainly among the most important job in the world, and it is not something that everyone is just naturally good at. We teach every child to do math problems (or at least we attempt to), even though a lot of them will end up doing very little beyond basic arithmetic in their adult lives. Why? Because they might need these skills at some point. And besides, it is good for young brains to be exposed to certain ways of thinking. Couldn’t this same argument be applied to parenting – especially since most people will actually become parents at some point, and parents literally have children’s lives in their hands?

Attachment Parenting - Long Term Results? Would like feedback from parents and others who've used and experienced attachment parenting for at least 15 years What I've read and seen in real life, attachment parenting doesn't work in the long run. It teaches the child that it must have its needs met immediately. It can't wait. Also, by being so dependent on a parent it fails to teach the child indepence, self reliance, and exhibits signs of Codependence. This appears to be a detriment to the child's psychological development, not a benefit. I would like to get rational level headed feedback on this. Pro or Con. Explaination of Attachment Parenting - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting

Responsible parenting? What are the challenges/ problems faced by parents with teenage children? What are the causes of problems between parents and teenagers? What can parents do to improve relationship with their teenagers? What are the benefits of responsible parenting? Thanks :D

Fathers and mothers are not taught parenting skill; who to blame who? There is general consensus around parents providing the basic necessities, with increasing interest in children's rights within the home environment. Herein I raise inter-related questions:- 1. Define Parenting. 2. What are parental duties? 3. What is the differences and similitaries between 'conventional parenting' and 'modern parenting'? 4. What are the parenting issues faced by children today? 5. What are the parenting styles? 6. Where is the justice upon the children whose parents misuse their parenting authorities? Thanks Syd...wow, such a young age to know something in-depth...clap,clap,clap

Teen parenting books? What are some good books for a teenage parent? Im 15 & have a 6 day old daughter & every parenting book i own/our have read is aimed for older parents. Plus my baby's dad is not in the picture ( read the info about me & you will find out why). Can anybody sugest any good books on teen-parenting? Thanks oh & no rude answers please :)

Teen parenting books? What are some good books for a teenage parent? Im 15 & have a 6 day old daughter & every parenting book i own/our have read is aimed for older parents. Plus my baby's dad is not in the picture ( read the info about me & you will find out why). Can anybody sugest any good books on teen-parenting? Thanks for your help :) Oh is anybody else a teen-parent? What's your story ( if you dont mind sharing). No rude answers please :)

Do people plan their parenting strategies, or just make it up as they go along? I am curious. When I first got pregnant with my oldest (15 years ago) I spent alot of time research parenting ideas and deciding what sort of parent I wanted to be. I went to some parenting workshops - and as the kids have got older have been to new ones. Late last year I attended a workshop for Parents and Teenagers that focused on communication and conflict resolution. I learn new things every day and am forever feeling challenged to re-think or reshape my strategies, as all children are different and therefore have different needs. I have just assumed that all parents do this!?! Do you have a parenting plan? Or a general idea of the lessons that you think are needed in order for your kids to lead productive happy lives? What are your priorities? Do you stick to it?

What do you think about parenting classes for parents who abused and neglected their children? I think it's ridiculous. You can read books and take parenting classes to improve the skills and instincts you already have but I don't think taking parenting classes can turn someone who abused and neglected their children into a good parent. I know some natural mothers didn't have good parental models to begin with but I don't think this is a good excuse. My mom did not always model what a good parent should be. She had anger problems. This makes me try even harder not to lose my temper around my son. I think if you have to take parenting classes to learn not to abuse and neglect your child, you lack that mothering instinct to protect your child at all cost. I think parenting classes reflect what our society has come to: a bunch of people who don't want to take responsibility and control of our own lives. We always want to blame someone else for our own actions. Anybody else's thoughts? Vanessa: I'm sorry if I came across as saying my mom wasn't a good mom. Overall, she was a great mom, but she did deal with anger problems and fought with my dad often in front of me. I try very hard not to model this behavior to my family. Joy: You bet I deal with controlling my anger. There is nothing wrong with admitting you struggle with issues. However, I don't take it out on my children. I reserve people like you for that. Oh and by the way, there is nothing wrong with getting a little angry sometimes. Especially at child abusers and the people who defend them. I have no problem admitting that makes me angry! Joy: People who defend child abusers are probably child abusers themselves. Joy M defends child abusers all the time on this forum. She believes children should be with their natural mothers at all cost. Just the other day she was defending a woman who got tired of her children whining when they were sick. She aplauded this woman for getting her children out of foster care even though the woman posted questions about abusing her children. This makes Joy M happy because it probably validates the abuse she exposes her children to. Also, people who feel the need to call complete strangers "Honey" and "Sweetie" all the time struggle with severe self esteem and intimacy issues. This is a proven fact! Don't ya'll hate that? I know you've met people like this. I'm thinking "seriously, I don't know you. Please don't refer to me as honey."

Provisional Parenting ? With the growing number of high profile contenders for the worst parents of the decade award, is it not about time parents were provisionally licensed (at the birth of their first child), had to have parenting lessons, pass a parenting test and then become fully licensed before they could look after a child alone, or have more children ?

Parenting License Video? I watched a fictional video today in class, on parenting license, and couples going through the process of getting on in the Department Of Parenting Licenses. I can't find the video now....Does anybody know where it is? By the way, the video was fictional, there are no parenting licenses or a department based on that.

What should I do about the parenting situation that my wife and I are dealing with? My wife and I love our kids but we cant seem to agree on anything that has to do with our parenting methods. When she says no I say yes, when I so no she says yes. My biggest fear is raising two spoiled boys and I am afraid that my wife is spoiling them to death, and I dont mean spoil them with love, I mean give in to their every whim. I see how spoiled and unapreciative so many children are today and I just want my boys to treat people with love and respect and to appreciate things that they recieve in life. I dont even think that my wife realizes it and I know that she is creating a monster. Am I over reatcting and what should I do

How do you politely get your in-laws to butt out when it comes to parenting your child? Here's the situation. My husband and I are very close to his grandmother. She lives alone, and we visit her often. The problem is she is kind of paranoid when it comes to our daughter. It's annoying to have answer the same old questions over and over.."When will her teeth come in?" (My baby is 7 months. She has been asking us since she was 4 months old) Is she sick? (After my daughter sneezes once at her house. His grandmother smokes in her garage which may be the problem, but I don't want to be rude and bring this up.) And, countless other things. Sometimes it seems like she is putting down are parenting skills. How do I tell her to butt out in a nice way. I'm afraid that one day I'm going to blow up on her, and I don't want that to happen.

What type of cool features would you want on a parenting site? what would be most helpful to you - the busy parent - on a Web site? For example, the ability to give ratings things like Movies (sexual content, bad language, violence, etc.). And you could say you don't mind bad language, per se, so rate that low like a 1 but sex and violence are not acceptable in your home so you rate a 10 and then get customized recommendations for what movies fit the bill for YOUR family. That is a random example, but what do you want on a parenting site?

Does anyone know of any good parenting channels or Video on Demand? You know, with TV-like programs, how to's, tips, etc...Not just Parents/Parenting magazine sites, but actual TV or video on demand, or broadband video?

Parenting practices and philosophy? What is your opinion on the following: Taking Children Seriously, TCS, is a worldwide parenting movement and educational philosophy based upon the idea that it is possible and desirable to raise and educate children without either doing anything to them against their will, or making them do anything against their will. The TCS model of parenting and education argues that most traditional interactions between adults and youth are based on coercion. TCS rejects this coercion as infringing on the will of the child, and also rejects parental or educator "self-sacrifice" as infringing on the will of the adult. TCS advocates that parents and children work to find a common preference, a solution all parties genuinely prefer to all other candidate solutions they can think of.

Helicopter vs. B&B parenting: Words of wisdom? First definitions... Helicopter parenting: Overprotective, always hovering around the child or children. B&B (bed and breakfast) parenting: Hey, the kid has a place to sleep and if lucky might get breakfast. These two are at opposite ends of the spectrum. We are parents of an only child and have probably tended to be over protective. Plus, I was raised in more of a B&B environment and made my mind up that I was not going to do that to my child. I think that the homeschool crowd thinks we are too far towards the B&B approach and the non-homeschool crowd thinks we are too much like helicopters. Maybe this means we have found the right balance? We are making a conscious effort to allow our son to find his independence but it is hard for us not to be overprotective. It is tough to find the right balance. Any words of wisdom? Note: this could have gone in the Parenting section, but I particularly want thoughts from homeschool parents. B&B Parenting - I made that up myself. But seems descriptive enough.

Parenting plan was over riden by new court order? My Parenting plan when we HAD joint custody say's that my ex husband is to get and I am to get the report card's and information on the kid's but that was only in effect until a new order was set. Now I have an order for Temporary sole legal and physical custody of my kid's so that parenting plan is no longer an order because it over rides the parenting plan since we do not share custody anymore. He only has supervised visitation now. If he showed interest in the kid's i would send it to him but when I let him know that there doing good he doesn't even care. He has not seen them for 2 months, has not paid child support this month, has not called them for over 2 months and just plain does not care. I've had Temporar full custody for almost 2 years now.

Parenting Dolls? We were planning on getting a Parenting Doll for myself so I could see what it was like to be a mother. But I can't find any parenting dolls online that look like a real baby. Can you please help me find a real looking parenting baby doll? please and thank you.

How do I (a non-parent) tell my friend that her bad parenting is harming her child? My friend hits, spanks and yells at her 5-year-old (among other equally bad disciplinary techniques), trying to deal with a child who's continually angry, throws massive temper tantrums and is out of control most of the time, both at home and at school. Unbelievably, this parent thinks she's dealing with a bad child. She can't see that she's set up this vicious circle herself with her poor parenting skills and the child is only reacting in kind. My problem is, as a non-parent, I have no credibility to point out her lack of parenting skills or even suggest she get help for herself first and I'd certainly get no thanks for telling her what's perfectly plain to see from an outsider's point of view! I feel badly for the poor child who's caught in this trap with a parent who hasn't a clue, but I also feel sorry for my friend that her great hopes for motherhood are being lost in a daily battle of her own ignorant creation. Any wisdom here would be greatly appreciated. - Sharon.

Parenting or Family magazine? I'm looking for any good magazine about family or parenting. I am a new parent and it's nice to read things that I can relate to and learn also... Any magazine that discuss different aspect of family life... Would love to hear from other parents. Thanks in advance

Parenting Advice? Hey all you parents out there. Are you tired, like I am, of people asking parenting questions and giving parenting advice that don't have children?

Parenting classes should be a requirement for graduation. Most will become parents and need a class.? I feel that everyone should have to take a parenting class before they can graduate because just about everybody in the world will be parents some day. There are a ton of teen pregnancies and the teens will need to know how to take care of the baby. It is sad but I know a 13 yr old that already has 2 little kids. I don't understand how a 13 yr old can handle taking care of a child.

Should a "parenting license" be established? Think about it. People have to have licenses to do all SORTS of things. You had to be taught, and practice first, to get a driver's license. Professionals have to go to school and practice to get licenses to practice medicine, pharmacy, healthcare fields, ect. Hell, you even have to have a license to FISH!! And with the extreme lack of education and proper parenting skills, child abuse, and neglect I see in this society, shouldn't parents have to have a license before having children? I mean, look at what ADOPTIVE parents have to go through before adopting a kid. So why is it so easy for adults to have children naturally??? I think adults should have to go through some sort of parenting class, prove mental and financial stability, as well as educational competence before having children. What do you guys think?

parenting tips? hey. im working on a magazine and and theres a section on parenting tips. do you have any tips that i can use.please put your age teen,and if you are a teen, parent, or non-parent

Parenting Magazine, latest issue? Upon receiving Parenting Magazine this month, I found two recipies that looked good: Peanutty Stirfry and the Meatball Gyro I cut out the recipies, purchased the groceries, and ended up losing the recipies thanks to my son. I don't know how, when or where he took it and place it, but now I have about $30 worth of groceries for these recipies and no where to use them! Do you get Parenting magazine? Could you give me those two recipies? PLEASE? I requested it from Parenting.com, but so far no reply.

Parenting Styles!! Are there differences between single mothers of different ethnic backgrounds? For example, I am bi-racial, black and Japanese. My mother is Japanese so her style of parenting was different from American women in general. From what I have been told, white mothers have the tendency to be friends first then the parent with their children while black mothers are the parent first then as the friend. I know that this can’t be true or is it? Also, what are some of the differences if any between mothers? I posed this question because my father recently made a comment that if I ever got involved with a white woman make sure her children are well behaved and disciplined. Any thoughts?

parenting homework? ok i have about five question i dont understand here they are 1. what development is encompassed in the phrase "total healthful development? 2.how can parents help their children cope with todays fast pase safty? from technology toys and activites and decision for parents. 3. how do influences on children affect the need for protecting them. 4. how dose parenting effect society? and 5. in the 1600's two major differences in child rearing were.

Parenting advice or support of somebody in similar situation? I'm in a really confusing situation.I'm 19 and I have no parents or known relatives.I've been living alone already 2-3 years.My best friend(Kate,23-year-old) isn't married and has two daughters ages 7 and 3.A month ago her kids were taken away by CSP because she spanked(in fact - beated) really hard both of them for disobedience.When they were born,because of being a single parent,she had to choose a person who would take care of her children if something happens to her.She chose me.After this incident,the guardianship over the kids was given to me.Kate doesn't want them and cares of them because there were problems with giving them for adoption.Now the kids live with me already 4 days and seem to be alot happier,the little one even calls me mummy.Kate insists on me caring for them and doesn't want to see them again.She lives in another state and that won't be a problem.If someone can help me with parenting advice or a friendship,I'd be very grateful.My email is beingstopped@yahoo.com

Birth-control pill = single parenting? Does anyone know if the birth-control pill can cause/lead to single parenting or someone becoming a single parent in any way? If so, HOW can it be a cause of single parenting? A list of the source(s) [links] where your information was obtained would be very much appretiated! Thank You!

Parenting Licence? How many people out there think that expecting parents should attend parenting classes? Not the regular classes they have now, but like actually classes that give you a licence to be a parent? Why I ask is because I recently met a lady who has a little boy who is 7 months and she is not a very good mother. She yells at her baby all the time, she swears around him, smokes around him, leaves him wet diapers for long periods of times, and hes always dirty looking. The worst part is, she has no idea what he wants when he crys, she doesn't know if hes crying for food. My little one is 4 months and I can tell when shes crying for food, or crying cause shes just really tired, I know her crys. I think 7 months a mother should be able to tell the difference. Shes not being physically abusive to him but I really think she has no idea how to be a mom. I have only met her in the mall on walks, and got a pretty clear answer that shes not very well with her son, but I just don't know her well enough to give her advice, or tell her where to go to get some help. I really think people like this should have to have a parenting course before giving birth. I mean she has no bond with her kid, its like she doesn't care about him.

Best parenting magazine for ethnic moms/kids? I currently get "Parenting" and it is just so bland. Any magazines that offer a more diverse look at kids and parenting? I want to see real kids of all shades, hair colors and textures, and eye colors. I also would like a magazine that has more to offer than one boring article after the next. Any suggestions? I'm Native American and hoping to hear from Moms from all backgrounds. Thanks in advance! :)

Please help me understand this ..... parenting roles ....? So, the wife and I have been at each other lately, mostly because she instructs me too much with the kids and I push back because I want to be able to parent on my own. I've posted about this in the past and some females have answered, "Well, she's with the kids most of the time, so she KNOWS their tendencies better...." and "You work full time, you get to spend 40+ hours a week doing something other than being a dad ..." My wife has used these answers too. I ask you this: 1) Do you view you and your husband's roles in parenting differently? Are you MORE of a parent than the spouse that works full time? 2) Do you think that a man STOPS being a "dad", just because they are away at work? Does this entitle the stay @ home spouse to some measure of moral rigeousness in the parenting department? I don't get it... the world is FULL of women that complain about deadbeat dads, yet a married father that TRIES to be involved in childrearing gets relagated to a 2nd string role.

Parenting styles? Regarding baumrind's parenting styles: how would the authoritarian parenting style influence a child's development? How would this child develop? Basically, I'm looking for some info on authoritarian parenting and how it influences a person's life....

Parenting Vocabulary.? I've had a couple of words and terms that are pertaining to parenting whose definition I've been unable to search for. Any help with any of these words would be of great help: Prenatal care Role Model Socialization/ social development Cognitive development Authoritarian Parenting Permissive Parenting Democratic Parenting Autonomy Bonding Child Abuse Nature vs. Nurture Pediatrician Obstetrician

When did parenting change so? Reading answers in this section plus first hand sight of parenting today of relatives and friends, I just had to ask when parenting changed so drastically? I see ones cooking family meals, but if their under 6 y/o doesn't want that they will ask "what do you want me to get you" Will you pick up your toys? Will you go to bed? Will you take out the trash for me? Will you feed "your" dog for me? Why did the school suspend you for fighting?? We'll sue them. You have to have a car at 16, hmm your grades are bad but will you try to make C's next time? Oh I won't spank you because it may damage you mentally, you can report me for child abuse, even if I caught you drinking at 12...... Do you mind making your bed up before you go spend time in town with all your friends? Get the picture???? and we wonder why kids today have problems? They were never taught anything. I am excited to see their are some real parents still out there..Thank God & God Bless you all and your families! there not "their" lol...as to the child in store throwing a fit answer...even the best of parents get those fits in stores..how could we live if we didn't have kids that did those? Its how we deal later with them though...Bless your children though & you

Single foster parenting? I am considering becoming a foster parent. I am 24 and live in a 2 bedroom apartment. Does the type of home one lives in have any bearing on this? I found in my state that each child must have 50 sq ft of sleeping space. Also, as a single parent, what are your options for daycare? what about a parent that works night shift or long hours? (I work in a hospital 3 days a week). Just any advice, insight, or opinions about any issues regarding single foster parenting would be great for me right now. thanks

what i think about parenting,, i am 13 and this is my opinion do u agree?? Subject: Parenting 1.Parents, they ground us for every little thing. Do you even think they know what the word GROUNDED means, I think NOT! They take our away the things you like most. They think that by doing that we will learn and try not do the same mistakes that we did before because we love the thing the took away and we would miss it but parents get a clue well will find something else that will entertain us! 2.Spankings, OMG I don’t thinks so ,what cruel parent would hit their children would you like to get hit for something that you did wrong UMM No what ever happened to the rule TREAT OTHER THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED isn’t that like the golden rule or something. What does spanking do any way, hurt us make us cry how does that make us stop making mistakes IT DOSEN’T it just makes us madder and makes us do even more dumb mistakes SO STOP IT DOSEN”T HELP 3.They won’t let us get piercing or tattoos at a young age why not im 13 I don’t think that it is such a bad idea. I mean WERE NOT GONNA DIE WE WILL BE THE SAME PEOPLE WE WERE ITS NOT LIKE BEOFORE AND AFTER THERE IS NO CHANGE. 4.They think we are not responsible if we don’t do our chores with out them having to tell us and if they do tell us and when we do it they are still mad because we couldn’t do it on our own. ITS NOT THAT HARD TO TELL US AND IT DOES NOT TAKE THAT LONG LIKE WHAT 5 SECONDS and when we say we will do it and we take a little they keep reminding us I MEAN I HERD YOU THE FIRST TIME come on and they loses patients and do it for you and when they are done they are all mad, ITS LIKE I SAID I WOULD DO IT. 5.That’s what bothers me the most but then at the end they are just trying to be good parent but we all know that they have to loosen up a bit. 4REAL!! BE NICER AND DON’T GET MAD RIGHT A WAY SIT DOWN AND TALK GIVE WARNINGS LIKE 2 AND ON THE 3 TIME TAKE ACTION. If you stop being so mean you kids will brighten up and talk to you more ask then what is bothering them IT WORKS TRUST ME I KNOW FRON EXPERIENCE :)

""abstract parenting"" ? okay when i was picking up my daughter from girl scouts today i was talking to another mother who said i raise my kids bad and use ""abstract parenting"" what does she mean? before she said that she was talking about how she punished her daughter for A MONTH because she misbehaved. in response to that i explianed how i let my children learn from the own mistakes.. therefore i punish them lightly. it was almost as if she wanted her children to be PERFECT but i personally think that lifes short and haveing fun and enjoy yourself should be one of your TOP prioritys. this women almost sucked all the fun out of her kids lifes! but my real question here is.. am i a bad parent? and what do you think of this whole senerio

Do you think parenting beliefs vary based on where you live, such as rural areas vs. large cities? I grew up in a very rural area, where it is normal to see someone riding a horse down the road and you can't drive 1 mile without seeing a herd of cows. The closest big city is Dallas, and when I have gone there I have noticed that the way parents there are with their kids is really different from the way the parents where I live are. In the city the parents seem to be more into the idea of talking to your child like they are an adult, such as saying "Now lets sit down and talk about why we don't do .......". Where as where me and my family grew up, if a kid does something they are not supposed to, they got a good ol fashioned butt busting. I'm sure our ways would seem Redneck to some, such as a childs normal chores being things like feeding the animals or working on a farm. Do you think that it is because of the area that a person lives or was raised up in, that determines their parenting beliefs?

Interracial Parenting Question? Member since: 28 July 2007 Total points: 110 (Level 1) Points earned this week: --% Best answer chica_bonita912 S Interracial Parenting? Here's the thing. I am a single mother of an interracial child. She is white and African American. At the age of 15 I became pregnant with her and had her at the age of 16. Since then dating had been put aside. I am now 21 and about a year ago I met my boyfriend who is African American. We have been dating for a year and plan on getting married in the future. We have noticed that people like to stare and give ugly looks whenever we are together and we are fine with it because we are strong in our relationship. However my parents keep nagging on me about the hardships i am putting my daughter through because she is mixed and how she'll never fit in with white children or African American children and how she'll probably end up hating me for my choice or hating herself for what she is. I was wondering if it is really as bad as my parents

Games for mom in a parenting magazine? I had a parent magazine, I'm not sure if it was Parents or Parenting, and there was a small list of three websites moms go on to play games. I can't find the magazines, and didn't bookmark the sites yet. The websites for Parents and Parenting don't have links to them, so does anyone know what they were? I'd appreciate it.

Have you ever tried Shared Parenting after divorce? Shared Parenting after divorce means shared arrangements that encourage kids to know both parents are involved and share responsibility in their upbringing. This is generally considered to be a desirable plan in order to parent children separately. But is, however, still uncommon in situations where divorce lawyers become involved, due to the adversarial nature of our courts. Please share your success stories here if you have tried Shared Parenting after divorce, were unmarried, or experienced Shared Parenting as a child growing up.

Parenting, a lifelong commitment in our society? Why is parenting a lifelong commitment in our society? It's my essay question and I need some help, so thank you so much everyone in advance!

Who thinks that parenting is painful? As a parent of a teenager, it seems the older he gets, I find parenting to be a painful experience. As he's gotten older he wants to spend less and less w/me, and to be quite honest, sometimes he's just downright mean. I know that this is something that comes in teenage years (we were all one at one time). I guess now it's alot easier to understand what my parents went through to raise their family!!! Sometimes its just so hard to heart wrenching to sit back , and have to watch him struggle w/ 'finding himself'. I guess as a parent, the last thing anyone wants to do is see their children hurt or troubled. Does anyone else out there have similar feelings?